Our subconscious mind is programmed to fill in the blank when we ask open ended questions...it does not like to have something dangling at the end of a sentence, unanswered.
Instead of "Why can't I do better?" or "Why isn't what I want to happen, happening?" or "Why isn't he or she more understanding?" which keep us locked into the problem, we can switch to solution focus by asking open ended "How" questions.
My favorite two questions of the moment are used in powerful work called Access Consciousness. They are:
"What Else is Possible?" and "How Does it Get Any Better than This?"
Let me know how your life changes when you start using them..and I'll do the same!
Many blessings,
Ellen
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Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Manifest Your Mate--juicy stuff ahead!
I hope you have already done your Attract Your Soulmate ritual..that is, if you are wanting to attract new love into your life, or shift your present relationship to a richer, happier and more fulfilling one!
Just scroll down to the blog post immediately before this one and you'll find the written directions.
Manifest Your Mate begins on July 7th, and as it approaches, I am fleshing out the program more. My friends, this is JUICY. I have been working with manifesting, and with manifesting relationships, for years and have a wealth of background and resources to share with you.
Based on my own knowledge, and using Dr. Phyllis Light's book "Love Now: Here's How--26 Roadblocks to Healthy Relationships" and inspired by "Calling in the One" by Katherine Woodward Thomas, here are the topics for the sessions--the goal first, followed by what we are clearing:
Session 1) It’s Safe to Love: Overcoming Fear of Love/Intimacy
Session 2) I Deserve Love: Feeling Lovable, Worthy and Deserving of Love
Session 3)Clearing Beliefs from Parents/Parents Marriage,
Session 4)Clearing Beliefs about Relationships, Romance, Marriage from the culture
Session 5)Embracing my authentic self: Fear of Being Dominated/Loss of Self
Session 6)Keeping my Power and Healthy Boundaries: Fear of Being Used/Manipulated
Session 7)Opening to Greater Trust and Surrender: Feeling out Of Control in Love
Here's a sample of the self-exploration work and positive actions that will be assigned: This is the assignment for Session 2, to give you a sample of the kinds of stuff we'll be doing in the program:
Positive Action: Receptivity to Love, Self Love and the “good stuff”
a)Things to Notice: During your interactions with people, and when you are alone, begin to notice whether your thoughts, attitudes and behaviors are loving to yourself. Is your self talk critical, or accepting and encouraging? How would you treat yourself differently if you could act like a very loving, attentive and and caring mother? Do you deflect or minimize praise and appreciation from others? How much more love, compliments, help, and other good stuff are you willing to take in from other people, and from yourself?
b)Action: Rampage of Appreciation…write down as many things about yourself that you enjoy and appreciate as you can, at least 6. Add to the list throughout the day. Express out loud to someone else (or in writing) what you appreciate about them or something they did—2x per day.
c)Optional Additional Action: Repeat Deservability Prayer daily for 7 days, best out loud, to another person or the mirror.
Doesn't it sound great? I'm so excited! Please register now and share this blogpost with others. Go to: http://www.repattern.com and tab over to Manifest Your Mate.
Happy manifesting y'all,
Ellen
Just scroll down to the blog post immediately before this one and you'll find the written directions.
Manifest Your Mate begins on July 7th, and as it approaches, I am fleshing out the program more. My friends, this is JUICY. I have been working with manifesting, and with manifesting relationships, for years and have a wealth of background and resources to share with you.
Based on my own knowledge, and using Dr. Phyllis Light's book "Love Now: Here's How--26 Roadblocks to Healthy Relationships" and inspired by "Calling in the One" by Katherine Woodward Thomas, here are the topics for the sessions--the goal first, followed by what we are clearing:
Session 1) It’s Safe to Love: Overcoming Fear of Love/Intimacy
Session 2) I Deserve Love: Feeling Lovable, Worthy and Deserving of Love
Session 3)Clearing Beliefs from Parents/Parents Marriage,
Session 4)Clearing Beliefs about Relationships, Romance, Marriage from the culture
Session 5)Embracing my authentic self: Fear of Being Dominated/Loss of Self
Session 6)Keeping my Power and Healthy Boundaries: Fear of Being Used/Manipulated
Session 7)Opening to Greater Trust and Surrender: Feeling out Of Control in Love
Here's a sample of the self-exploration work and positive actions that will be assigned: This is the assignment for Session 2, to give you a sample of the kinds of stuff we'll be doing in the program:
Positive Action: Receptivity to Love, Self Love and the “good stuff”
a)Things to Notice: During your interactions with people, and when you are alone, begin to notice whether your thoughts, attitudes and behaviors are loving to yourself. Is your self talk critical, or accepting and encouraging? How would you treat yourself differently if you could act like a very loving, attentive and and caring mother? Do you deflect or minimize praise and appreciation from others? How much more love, compliments, help, and other good stuff are you willing to take in from other people, and from yourself?
b)Action: Rampage of Appreciation…write down as many things about yourself that you enjoy and appreciate as you can, at least 6. Add to the list throughout the day. Express out loud to someone else (or in writing) what you appreciate about them or something they did—2x per day.
c)Optional Additional Action: Repeat Deservability Prayer daily for 7 days, best out loud, to another person or the mirror.
Doesn't it sound great? I'm so excited! Please register now and share this blogpost with others. Go to: http://www.repattern.com and tab over to Manifest Your Mate.
Happy manifesting y'all,
Ellen
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Neediness: What' so wrong with it?
I wanted to share some helpful teachings for anyone who is going through depression, health challenges, hard financial times or being challenged in making a living. During these times, all of our self-doubts, our insecurites, questioning if we are good enough, if we have anything to offer..rear up out of the depths of our subconscious. It is not an easy place to be and I personally have visited those places this past year.
The worst part is not necessarily even the circumstances, but what we tell ourselves about them, what meaning we ascribe. It's easy to go into judgement and shame about being broke, depressed, unable to pay for the help we need, or even feeling unable to help ourselves. On top of what's going on, we layer on shame, self-critcism, etc. for being in a needy place.
A dominant idea in our culture--which almost all of us have bought into, whether we consider ourselves mainstream thinkers or not--is that being needy is about the worst thing. Rugged individuals, we are to be self-sufficient, able to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps at all times.
Look at how our culture treats people with needs--the poor, the homeless, the disabled, the elderly. Even in metaphysical circles, we are often reminded that we are creating our own reality. It is true--and ultimately,on the big picture level, So if we are broke or depressed, we have created that and it is up to us to get ourselves out of it.
On one level that is true--we are responsible for our lives and how we think, feel and react. AND yet, we're not doing it all alone--we are constantly co-creating that with a higher Intelligence and our soul's chosen life lessons, our destiny.
But when you are in a hurt child place, when all you can feel about life is a resounding NO, or you just want to be held and comforted, judgement and shame wont' help. They will just make you feel worse, more helpless and keep you down even longer.
Time for a fresh look at the whole idea of having needs. Here's a really positive perspective from Sufism which Mark Silver has shared in his writings on Heart of Business, bringing spirituality into the business arena. The Sufis say that being needy is the human condition. We are born dependent on our caregivers for food, water, warmth, touch and care...and throughout our lives we depend on food, water, air from the Earth. We depend on others for love, comfort, our life force itself comes from Source/Spirit/God. We can't live for long at all without taking in something from outside ourselves.
So why not accept that needs are part of being human, of being alive, rather than fight or judge this being human? We simply must depend on others, and on the Source of all, to help us--at times more than others. At those times, our "job" is to ask for grace, and to completely turn it over. When self-effort is completely beyond us, or we just need a boost, it's okay to ask. In fact, this is how balance is created in the Universe.
When you do ask, let yourself be receptive and open. Let the grace come in whatever form it will...the kindness of a stranger or a friend, an unexpected gift of food, money, a healing....an inspiration for a new way to make money..a mentor..a poem or song that uplifts you. Throw off the shame about being human and having needs and let the Source of All return you to a place of peace, connection, trust and hope.
We already know that we are "spiritual beings having a human experience"; now it's time to full embrace being human while having spiritual experiences!
Here's to embracing, celebrating and honoring our needs...and being open to having them met.
Many blessings,
Ellen
The worst part is not necessarily even the circumstances, but what we tell ourselves about them, what meaning we ascribe. It's easy to go into judgement and shame about being broke, depressed, unable to pay for the help we need, or even feeling unable to help ourselves. On top of what's going on, we layer on shame, self-critcism, etc. for being in a needy place.
A dominant idea in our culture--which almost all of us have bought into, whether we consider ourselves mainstream thinkers or not--is that being needy is about the worst thing. Rugged individuals, we are to be self-sufficient, able to pull ourselves up by the bootstraps at all times.
Look at how our culture treats people with needs--the poor, the homeless, the disabled, the elderly. Even in metaphysical circles, we are often reminded that we are creating our own reality. It is true--and ultimately,on the big picture level, So if we are broke or depressed, we have created that and it is up to us to get ourselves out of it.
On one level that is true--we are responsible for our lives and how we think, feel and react. AND yet, we're not doing it all alone--we are constantly co-creating that with a higher Intelligence and our soul's chosen life lessons, our destiny.
But when you are in a hurt child place, when all you can feel about life is a resounding NO, or you just want to be held and comforted, judgement and shame wont' help. They will just make you feel worse, more helpless and keep you down even longer.
Time for a fresh look at the whole idea of having needs. Here's a really positive perspective from Sufism which Mark Silver has shared in his writings on Heart of Business, bringing spirituality into the business arena. The Sufis say that being needy is the human condition. We are born dependent on our caregivers for food, water, warmth, touch and care...and throughout our lives we depend on food, water, air from the Earth. We depend on others for love, comfort, our life force itself comes from Source/Spirit/God. We can't live for long at all without taking in something from outside ourselves.
So why not accept that needs are part of being human, of being alive, rather than fight or judge this being human? We simply must depend on others, and on the Source of all, to help us--at times more than others. At those times, our "job" is to ask for grace, and to completely turn it over. When self-effort is completely beyond us, or we just need a boost, it's okay to ask. In fact, this is how balance is created in the Universe.
When you do ask, let yourself be receptive and open. Let the grace come in whatever form it will...the kindness of a stranger or a friend, an unexpected gift of food, money, a healing....an inspiration for a new way to make money..a mentor..a poem or song that uplifts you. Throw off the shame about being human and having needs and let the Source of All return you to a place of peace, connection, trust and hope.
We already know that we are "spiritual beings having a human experience"; now it's time to full embrace being human while having spiritual experiences!
Here's to embracing, celebrating and honoring our needs...and being open to having them met.
Many blessings,
Ellen
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