Session 1, July 7: It’s Safe to Love – Overcoming Fear of Love and Intimacy
Issues/Problems:
Love never works out for me, so why bother?
Love is painful
Being in an intimate relationship is too confining
Being with a partner means giving up my selfhood and sovereignty
I hate being vulnerable / I can’t trust or depend on love
I disappear in relationships
I don’t trust when someone is good to me or expresses love and affection towards me
I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop
I never attract a suitable and available partner who truly wants to be with me
Negative feelings: Fear/Dread/Insecurity/Anxiety
I don’t listen to my inner guidance or body knowing about whether someone is good for me
I am in conflict between wanting love and pushing it away
I totally accept the present challenging situation (the current relationship I’m in, the type of man I’m meeting, or my lack of relationship) free of self-pity and anger
New Possibility Intention:
I recognize my fear of love as an outdated survival strategy and I release it with compassion.
I am willing to experiment with new ways of seeing and imagining love relationships.
I seek out inspiring and uplifting examples of successful relationships and declare “This, or something even better, that’s for me!”
Repatterning: Healing the Family System Part II – Repatterning for Receiving
This Repatterning addresses blockages and other kinds of non-coherence around receiving what we need, what is helpful, beneficial and nurturing for us. Some of the concepts in this Repatterning are based on the Family Constellation principles which I will explain in brief in italics, just after the statement. All statements or reference to content are direct quotes or derived from “Healing the Family System II” by Carin Block.
Intentions around Receiving:
I receive what benefits and nurtures me from my partner
Non-coherence around Receiving:
I intend for my partner to assume responsibility for my well -being and happiness.
[In Constellation thinking, this is non-coherent in that we are the ones who are responsible for our own well-being].
I deny my circumstances
[We can only really be at peace and open to receiving when we acknowledge and accept our current circumstances rather than fighting them]
Instead of taking my parents, I choose to ask my partner for what I need in solving my problems.
[“Taking our parents” is a Constellation principle which says we must accept, receive and acknowledge our connection to our parents and ancestors in order to have a happy, healthy life. It does NOT mean condoning or taking in their harmful or negative behaviors or energy].
I exclude my ancestors
[Similarly, we must include all of our ancestors, by acknowledging our blood, DNA and energetic connection to our lineage, whether we like who they were/what they did, or not]
I am intolerant and critical
My partner expects me to do what s/he tells me to do
Out of love for my parents, I fail at relationships
[This refers to the concept of systemic loyalty, where for the sake of belonging or being loyal to our family and “what we do in OUR family”, we may limit ourselves in some way]
Earlier experience related to blockages in receiving:
14 months old with our mother/caregiver
I experience alternating periods of smothering and neglect, making me confused and disoriented. I cannot trust her to be there when I need her and so love feels shaky to me.
Unmet needs: Rest/Sunlight/Freedom to express feelings/Ecstasy
Negative belief about love that resulted:
Love is erratic and undependable; I can’t trust it
Love comes and goes for no reason and I am helpless to stop it from leaving
Coherence around receiving:
I am in charge of my life
I accept that there are issues in which my partner cannot help me.
I face problems with wisdom and keep myself centered.
What I receive from my partner satisfies me
I perceive myself as part of my family system
I am loving and tolerant
My partner shares my joy and pain and respects my individuality
I am worthy and receive what benefits and nurtures me
Out of love for my parents I am successful at love
Modalities (from Healing the Family System):
Note: these have been recorded for you so you can listen and do these modalities yourself. That is optional, as the modalities have already been done for you by proxy.
#1: Empowering Statements: (Statements to be spoken/heard aloud)
Listen and follow along here:
http://tinyurl.com/4296w3p:
Imagine your father saying to you:
“I bless you to live in abundance and hold onto or grow your money”
“I give you a place in my heart”
Imagine now saying to your mother:
“Even if you leave, I stay in life”
“I give you a place in my heart”
“I accept and honor my destiny.”
#2: Fusing Symbols: The Adventurer
Here we “fuse” or integrate the energy of different archetypes or symbols. Again, this was recorded for you so you can do it yourself by listening to the recording, but it’s optional as this was done for you by proxy.
Listen here:
http://tinyurl.com/3hnvkzy:
Here are the directions:
“Close your eyes and relax. Create an image that symbolizes the Adventurer. You can imagine the Adventurer as a person, a light, a figure, a landscape, whatever you wish. S/he is naïve, inexperienced and candid. S/he embarks on his/her path without concerns, goes joyfully through life learning many things in order to evolve. S/he represents the void, the nothingness that appears at the beginning or end of the path, when wisdom is attained. S/he is nonchalant, spontaneous and enthusiastic. S/he looks for adventure and comes up with dazzling ideas. Sometimes s/he can go a little mad.”
Notice your image or sensation. Whatever you perceive is okay. Notice any details that make this more vivid and tangible for you.
Now, contact your heart, and say to the Adventurer, “now I see you and acknowledge what you are and what you represent: The Adventurer. You are naïve, inexperienced and candid. You embark on your path without concerns, you go joyfully through life and learn many things in order to evolve. You are the void, the nothingness that appears at the beginning and end of the path when wisdom is attained. You are nonchalant, spontaneous and enthusiastic. I now choose to take everything you give me, I am nourished by you and do something good with this. I give you a place in my heart and honor you.”
Now, take a bow or incline your head. This reverence represents honoring and accepting the Adventurer with everything s/he is and everything s/he gives you.
Finally do the open heart gesture (see below). Breathe in and fuse the Adventurer in your body, place him/her where you feel most comfortable. By doing so, you know have access to all the resources of the Adventurer and can use them for the greatest good.”
Open heart gesture: (The following is from Chloe Wordsworth’s Modalities book, paraphrased).
The open heart gesture is a movement that opens up the radiant energy field of the heart to giving/radiating and feeling/receiving love. According to Heart Math, this field can extend as much as 300 feet beyond and around the body! Stand up, and take some deep breaths. As you breathe, extend your arms out to either side as though you were embracing someone in a very wide hug. Feel yourself opening your heart wide to radiate and give love. Then, with another breath, bring your hands and arms in towards your own heart, receiving your own love and the love energy that is available to you from other people and Source. Go back and forth a few times, radiating love, then receiving it.
Doesn’t it feel great?
Positive Actions:
a)Action: Each morning, do the Open Heart Gesture 3x, as you do so imagine opening your heart up to radiate and receive love.
b)Things to Notice: Throughout the day, notice how open or closed you feel to express or receive love and affection, and as you become aware, come back to the open heart gesture. You may need to focus especially on opening your heart to yourself.
Friday, July 8, 2011
Manifest Your Mate: Session 1 Additional information
Our topic: It’s Safe to Love – Overcoming the fear of Love and Intimacy
This pattern is described quite thoroughly in Phyllis Light’s book, “Love Now, Here’s How”. The following are excerpted from her book.
Common Signs that you have this pattern:
Avoiding relationships/not wanting to get involved
Feeling abused/attracting abusive partners
Leaving relationships when they get too good
Feeling as if you’re going to die because you are in a loving relationship
Feeling as if you aren’t okay in others’ eyes, and therefore not allowing them to be nice, kind or loving to you
Avoiding or finding fault with someone who is interested in you
Pushing away a man/woman who loves you
Feeling as if you can’t have love here, and therefore you resist getting to know people who are kind and loving to you
Maintaining long distance relationships or relationships with unavailable partners
Not wanting to settle down with one person
Avoiding intimacy in relationships
Being unable to be intimate with your partner (or vice versa)
Creating superficial relationships
Being a bachelor or loner
How did this pattern come about and how does it tend to operate in your life?
This pattern clearly keeps relationships from working out for you. You might have a fear of love if the love you experienced as a child was mingled with threats to your safety in some way. For example, if your parents physically, mentally or emotionally abused you, and that was your first experience of love, understandably, you may fear love or prefer to live without it.
If your parents were overbearing, unreasonably demanding, or frequently made you do things you really didn’t want to do, you may have felt overburdened, overpowered, or suffocated by love. If such was the case, you are probably inclined to resist love in any form.
The problem is that because of your negative programming about love, you are convinced that love is to be avoided at all costs. You are not truly open to creating a loving relationship with another because you are so fearful of the consequences of being that close to someone again. Your early experiences with “loving” relationships taught you to stay away from them, as a way to ensure your survival and sanity.
With this pattern you also may avoid people who treat you kindly and lovingly, because you are so accustomed to being treated poorly by the ones who “loved” you as a child, and the positive attention is totally unfamiliar. You may find yourself choosing pain over pleasure again and again, because the mind always gravitates toward the familiar. Your “inner computer” is “wired” to continually attract the poor, neglectful, unloving, abusive or smothering treatment.
This pattern is described quite thoroughly in Phyllis Light’s book, “Love Now, Here’s How”. The following are excerpted from her book.
Common Signs that you have this pattern:
Avoiding relationships/not wanting to get involved
Feeling abused/attracting abusive partners
Leaving relationships when they get too good
Feeling as if you’re going to die because you are in a loving relationship
Feeling as if you aren’t okay in others’ eyes, and therefore not allowing them to be nice, kind or loving to you
Avoiding or finding fault with someone who is interested in you
Pushing away a man/woman who loves you
Feeling as if you can’t have love here, and therefore you resist getting to know people who are kind and loving to you
Maintaining long distance relationships or relationships with unavailable partners
Not wanting to settle down with one person
Avoiding intimacy in relationships
Being unable to be intimate with your partner (or vice versa)
Creating superficial relationships
Being a bachelor or loner
How did this pattern come about and how does it tend to operate in your life?
This pattern clearly keeps relationships from working out for you. You might have a fear of love if the love you experienced as a child was mingled with threats to your safety in some way. For example, if your parents physically, mentally or emotionally abused you, and that was your first experience of love, understandably, you may fear love or prefer to live without it.
If your parents were overbearing, unreasonably demanding, or frequently made you do things you really didn’t want to do, you may have felt overburdened, overpowered, or suffocated by love. If such was the case, you are probably inclined to resist love in any form.
The problem is that because of your negative programming about love, you are convinced that love is to be avoided at all costs. You are not truly open to creating a loving relationship with another because you are so fearful of the consequences of being that close to someone again. Your early experiences with “loving” relationships taught you to stay away from them, as a way to ensure your survival and sanity.
With this pattern you also may avoid people who treat you kindly and lovingly, because you are so accustomed to being treated poorly by the ones who “loved” you as a child, and the positive attention is totally unfamiliar. You may find yourself choosing pain over pleasure again and again, because the mind always gravitates toward the familiar. Your “inner computer” is “wired” to continually attract the poor, neglectful, unloving, abusive or smothering treatment.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Manifest Your Mate--juicy stuff ahead!
I hope you have already done your Attract Your Soulmate ritual..that is, if you are wanting to attract new love into your life, or shift your present relationship to a richer, happier and more fulfilling one!
Just scroll down to the blog post immediately before this one and you'll find the written directions.
Manifest Your Mate begins on July 7th, and as it approaches, I am fleshing out the program more. My friends, this is JUICY. I have been working with manifesting, and with manifesting relationships, for years and have a wealth of background and resources to share with you.
Based on my own knowledge, and using Dr. Phyllis Light's book "Love Now: Here's How--26 Roadblocks to Healthy Relationships" and inspired by "Calling in the One" by Katherine Woodward Thomas, here are the topics for the sessions--the goal first, followed by what we are clearing:
Session 1) It’s Safe to Love: Overcoming Fear of Love/Intimacy
Session 2) I Deserve Love: Feeling Lovable, Worthy and Deserving of Love
Session 3)Clearing Beliefs from Parents/Parents Marriage,
Session 4)Clearing Beliefs about Relationships, Romance, Marriage from the culture
Session 5)Embracing my authentic self: Fear of Being Dominated/Loss of Self
Session 6)Keeping my Power and Healthy Boundaries: Fear of Being Used/Manipulated
Session 7)Opening to Greater Trust and Surrender: Feeling out Of Control in Love
Here's a sample of the self-exploration work and positive actions that will be assigned: This is the assignment for Session 2, to give you a sample of the kinds of stuff we'll be doing in the program:
Positive Action: Receptivity to Love, Self Love and the “good stuff”
a)Things to Notice: During your interactions with people, and when you are alone, begin to notice whether your thoughts, attitudes and behaviors are loving to yourself. Is your self talk critical, or accepting and encouraging? How would you treat yourself differently if you could act like a very loving, attentive and and caring mother? Do you deflect or minimize praise and appreciation from others? How much more love, compliments, help, and other good stuff are you willing to take in from other people, and from yourself?
b)Action: Rampage of Appreciation…write down as many things about yourself that you enjoy and appreciate as you can, at least 6. Add to the list throughout the day. Express out loud to someone else (or in writing) what you appreciate about them or something they did—2x per day.
c)Optional Additional Action: Repeat Deservability Prayer daily for 7 days, best out loud, to another person or the mirror.
Doesn't it sound great? I'm so excited! Please register now and share this blogpost with others. Go to: http://www.repattern.com and tab over to Manifest Your Mate.
Happy manifesting y'all,
Ellen
Just scroll down to the blog post immediately before this one and you'll find the written directions.
Manifest Your Mate begins on July 7th, and as it approaches, I am fleshing out the program more. My friends, this is JUICY. I have been working with manifesting, and with manifesting relationships, for years and have a wealth of background and resources to share with you.
Based on my own knowledge, and using Dr. Phyllis Light's book "Love Now: Here's How--26 Roadblocks to Healthy Relationships" and inspired by "Calling in the One" by Katherine Woodward Thomas, here are the topics for the sessions--the goal first, followed by what we are clearing:
Session 1) It’s Safe to Love: Overcoming Fear of Love/Intimacy
Session 2) I Deserve Love: Feeling Lovable, Worthy and Deserving of Love
Session 3)Clearing Beliefs from Parents/Parents Marriage,
Session 4)Clearing Beliefs about Relationships, Romance, Marriage from the culture
Session 5)Embracing my authentic self: Fear of Being Dominated/Loss of Self
Session 6)Keeping my Power and Healthy Boundaries: Fear of Being Used/Manipulated
Session 7)Opening to Greater Trust and Surrender: Feeling out Of Control in Love
Here's a sample of the self-exploration work and positive actions that will be assigned: This is the assignment for Session 2, to give you a sample of the kinds of stuff we'll be doing in the program:
Positive Action: Receptivity to Love, Self Love and the “good stuff”
a)Things to Notice: During your interactions with people, and when you are alone, begin to notice whether your thoughts, attitudes and behaviors are loving to yourself. Is your self talk critical, or accepting and encouraging? How would you treat yourself differently if you could act like a very loving, attentive and and caring mother? Do you deflect or minimize praise and appreciation from others? How much more love, compliments, help, and other good stuff are you willing to take in from other people, and from yourself?
b)Action: Rampage of Appreciation…write down as many things about yourself that you enjoy and appreciate as you can, at least 6. Add to the list throughout the day. Express out loud to someone else (or in writing) what you appreciate about them or something they did—2x per day.
c)Optional Additional Action: Repeat Deservability Prayer daily for 7 days, best out loud, to another person or the mirror.
Doesn't it sound great? I'm so excited! Please register now and share this blogpost with others. Go to: http://www.repattern.com and tab over to Manifest Your Mate.
Happy manifesting y'all,
Ellen
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Ritual for Clearing & Attracting Your Soul Mate
I am happy, grateful and excited to be offering a special ritual via teleclass tomorrow, at the New Moon and Solar Eclipse, Friday July 1st, at 10am Mountain time, 12 noon Eastern time. According to Vedic astrologers, this is a very auspicious time to be doing this ritual.
I personally feel quite strongly that now is the time to bring my soulmate in, and that many, many of us have been preparing, praying and longing and it's time. In the Soulmate Summit that took place earlier this year, over 60,000 people were registered for teleclasses or participated in a Facebook group. That's a MOVEMENT, my friends!
The timing, and the ritual itself, was inspired by Arielle Ford, who's written a book on Attracting your Soulmate and is leading a workshop at the Omega Center in New York this very weekend. She very generously shared an outline of a fire ceremony (much like the many fire ceremonies and Vedic rituals I participated in over my 20+ years on the path of Siddha yoga meditation) which I will modify to suit the teleclass format and have also adapted based on my own guidance.
I was also inspired to finally get it out there--Manifest Your Mate, a 21 day program of proxy or distance energy sessions along with self-discovery processes, which will begin on July 7 officially. But doing the ritual, either with us on July 1 or at any time on or before July 7, will really start the program for you. More about that in my next post!
First, some basics about how this is all going to work.
1) Teleclass will take place July 1, at noon Eastern (DST); 10 am Mountain time. The number to dial into is: 1-559-546-1700 Access: 824128#
2) If you can, please read through the outline below and take some time to
prepare for the ritual. It should not take more than a 1/2 hour to hour, so do the preparation when you are in a quiet place where you won't be interrupted. If you don't have time, it's okay, just show up to the call.
If you won't be on the call, you can still do this ritual on your own schedule, EITHER by reading through the outline and doing this on your own, or by listening to the teleclass where the group does the ritual together, via the recording I will provide. It will be powerful if you do it alone, and magnified if you do it with at least one other person. (wherever two or more are gathered..)
3) Preparing for the ritual:
You may use a candle, or even create a small fire in a metal bowl or oustide, if you can do this safely. I will be using a candle. If you do not wish to use an actual candle or fire, you may visualize a fire and do this symbolically. Also gather a bowl or sacred vessel, and fill half to 2/3 with water. Have an extra vessel and also a pitcher, jar or other container of water ready as well. You will also want to have a pen and paper handy.
Find something you can use to make an offering to the fire. This might be sage, tobacco, other herbs, flower petals, small pieces of paper (be careful if doing this outside as burning paper tends to blow away easily), corn or other grain,or some cooked food. Whatever feels right.
Beyond this, create a sacred space with any other objects or images that you would like to have around you that connect you with Spirit, with joy, love and your own heart. If sage, incense or essential oils are things you enjoy, bring them in. You may keep this as simple or ornate as you like.
When you have created your sacred space, take a few minutes to relax your body, shakout any tension or anxiety, and then breathe deeply in through the soles of your feet, letting the breath sweep through your body from the inside, like a fresh breath of wind. The breath moves up from your feet, cleansing and clearing any toxic or stale energies, emotions and thought forms, and then you exhale it out from your mouth, releasing any constrictions on the exhale. Do 1-3 rounds of this cleansing breath.
4) You may do these contemplations ahead of time, or while you are actually doing the ritual. These contemplations may also be useful to do again later on if you find there is rich material there. These are some of the things I will be addressing in the Manifest Your Mate program as well.
Round 1: Appreciation/Regrets--Offering & Release:
Take some time to acknowledge and appreciate all your past relationships and what you have learned from them. What lessons have you learned, how have you grown, what qualities have been strengthened in you? Then acknowledge anything else you feel grateful for in this moment.
Breathe in the appreciation. Make an offering to the fire, a pinch of whatever you wish to offer, or do it symbolically in your mind, in gratitude for your lessons, for your life, for the earth.
Now take a minute to get in touch with regrets that you may have about the past relationships. Just work with whatever comes first to mind, even though there may be a long list. We can use the power of symbolism and resonance so that we don't have to exhaustively list it all, whatever you come up with can be "proxy" for all the regrets you want to release.
Now, , breathe out what you are ready to release..and then scoop up a little of the water and let it wash over you, rinse your hands with it, or sprinkle the drops. This is using the power of water to cleanse and heal.
Round two: Our prayer for our hearts to be healed of anything that stands in the way of manifesting our soulmate. Write this on a small, clean piece of paper and offer it to the fire--literally or symbolically in your mind. The prayer request will burn, turn to smoke and release into the ethers. This allows the energy of the past to move along to its highest spiritual progression path as we bring in the healing energies.
Optional: You can also speak the words of "whatever stands in the way of manifesting my soulmate" into water, and then pour that water into another cup/bowl/or container. This is using water in additon or instead of fire.
Round 3: This is the prayer for “new” love (or if you are already with your soulmate you can use this ceremony to create a new career or new results in some area of life). On a clean sheet of paper write down your desire and then offer it to the fire, knowing, feeling and trusting that the result you have asked for is already ours. Or use the water method, speaking these things into the water and then pouring it into another vessel.
If you are using water, then go outside and sprinkle/pour the water on the earth (or on your houseplants), releasing this to the earth.
Closure: Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and feel the effects of the ritual. Notice your energy and how you feel. To close the ritual, if it feels right, you can recite the following:
God/Goddess and All That Is, (or use your own language here)
In this moment I am grateful for the healing of my heart of EVERYTHING that would stop me from attracting my soulmate. In this moment I remember that my perfect, right partner is magnetizing to me and my only job is to rest in perfect awareness that their heart is already joined with mine as I
“savor the waiting.”
And so it is.
Wishing you love, laughter, deep soul satisfaction and magical adventures leading up to and beyond the meeting with your soulmate, may you find in form a magnificent reflection of your own Divine Human self.
Many blessings,
Ellen
I personally feel quite strongly that now is the time to bring my soulmate in, and that many, many of us have been preparing, praying and longing and it's time. In the Soulmate Summit that took place earlier this year, over 60,000 people were registered for teleclasses or participated in a Facebook group. That's a MOVEMENT, my friends!
The timing, and the ritual itself, was inspired by Arielle Ford, who's written a book on Attracting your Soulmate and is leading a workshop at the Omega Center in New York this very weekend. She very generously shared an outline of a fire ceremony (much like the many fire ceremonies and Vedic rituals I participated in over my 20+ years on the path of Siddha yoga meditation) which I will modify to suit the teleclass format and have also adapted based on my own guidance.
I was also inspired to finally get it out there--Manifest Your Mate, a 21 day program of proxy or distance energy sessions along with self-discovery processes, which will begin on July 7 officially. But doing the ritual, either with us on July 1 or at any time on or before July 7, will really start the program for you. More about that in my next post!
First, some basics about how this is all going to work.
1) Teleclass will take place July 1, at noon Eastern (DST); 10 am Mountain time. The number to dial into is: 1-559-546-1700 Access: 824128#
2) If you can, please read through the outline below and take some time to
prepare for the ritual. It should not take more than a 1/2 hour to hour, so do the preparation when you are in a quiet place where you won't be interrupted. If you don't have time, it's okay, just show up to the call.
If you won't be on the call, you can still do this ritual on your own schedule, EITHER by reading through the outline and doing this on your own, or by listening to the teleclass where the group does the ritual together, via the recording I will provide. It will be powerful if you do it alone, and magnified if you do it with at least one other person. (wherever two or more are gathered..)
3) Preparing for the ritual:
You may use a candle, or even create a small fire in a metal bowl or oustide, if you can do this safely. I will be using a candle. If you do not wish to use an actual candle or fire, you may visualize a fire and do this symbolically. Also gather a bowl or sacred vessel, and fill half to 2/3 with water. Have an extra vessel and also a pitcher, jar or other container of water ready as well. You will also want to have a pen and paper handy.
Find something you can use to make an offering to the fire. This might be sage, tobacco, other herbs, flower petals, small pieces of paper (be careful if doing this outside as burning paper tends to blow away easily), corn or other grain,or some cooked food. Whatever feels right.
Beyond this, create a sacred space with any other objects or images that you would like to have around you that connect you with Spirit, with joy, love and your own heart. If sage, incense or essential oils are things you enjoy, bring them in. You may keep this as simple or ornate as you like.
When you have created your sacred space, take a few minutes to relax your body, shakout any tension or anxiety, and then breathe deeply in through the soles of your feet, letting the breath sweep through your body from the inside, like a fresh breath of wind. The breath moves up from your feet, cleansing and clearing any toxic or stale energies, emotions and thought forms, and then you exhale it out from your mouth, releasing any constrictions on the exhale. Do 1-3 rounds of this cleansing breath.
4) You may do these contemplations ahead of time, or while you are actually doing the ritual. These contemplations may also be useful to do again later on if you find there is rich material there. These are some of the things I will be addressing in the Manifest Your Mate program as well.
Round 1: Appreciation/Regrets--Offering & Release:
Take some time to acknowledge and appreciate all your past relationships and what you have learned from them. What lessons have you learned, how have you grown, what qualities have been strengthened in you? Then acknowledge anything else you feel grateful for in this moment.
Breathe in the appreciation. Make an offering to the fire, a pinch of whatever you wish to offer, or do it symbolically in your mind, in gratitude for your lessons, for your life, for the earth.
Now take a minute to get in touch with regrets that you may have about the past relationships. Just work with whatever comes first to mind, even though there may be a long list. We can use the power of symbolism and resonance so that we don't have to exhaustively list it all, whatever you come up with can be "proxy" for all the regrets you want to release.
Now, , breathe out what you are ready to release..and then scoop up a little of the water and let it wash over you, rinse your hands with it, or sprinkle the drops. This is using the power of water to cleanse and heal.
Round two: Our prayer for our hearts to be healed of anything that stands in the way of manifesting our soulmate. Write this on a small, clean piece of paper and offer it to the fire--literally or symbolically in your mind. The prayer request will burn, turn to smoke and release into the ethers. This allows the energy of the past to move along to its highest spiritual progression path as we bring in the healing energies.
Optional: You can also speak the words of "whatever stands in the way of manifesting my soulmate" into water, and then pour that water into another cup/bowl/or container. This is using water in additon or instead of fire.
Round 3: This is the prayer for “new” love (or if you are already with your soulmate you can use this ceremony to create a new career or new results in some area of life). On a clean sheet of paper write down your desire and then offer it to the fire, knowing, feeling and trusting that the result you have asked for is already ours. Or use the water method, speaking these things into the water and then pouring it into another vessel.
If you are using water, then go outside and sprinkle/pour the water on the earth (or on your houseplants), releasing this to the earth.
Closure: Take a few minutes to breathe deeply and feel the effects of the ritual. Notice your energy and how you feel. To close the ritual, if it feels right, you can recite the following:
God/Goddess and All That Is, (or use your own language here)
In this moment I am grateful for the healing of my heart of EVERYTHING that would stop me from attracting my soulmate. In this moment I remember that my perfect, right partner is magnetizing to me and my only job is to rest in perfect awareness that their heart is already joined with mine as I
“savor the waiting.”
And so it is.
Wishing you love, laughter, deep soul satisfaction and magical adventures leading up to and beyond the meeting with your soulmate, may you find in form a magnificent reflection of your own Divine Human self.
Many blessings,
Ellen
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Three Seeds for the New Reality
Greetings..finally figured out how to get back into my blog after access problems, so here I am! I am receiving part of a daily message series called "Blooming Humans". It includes this, from Charles Eisenstein's blog..enjoy!
Once upon a time, the tribe of humanity embarked upon a long journey called Separation. It was not a blunder as some - seeing its ravages upon the planet - might think. Nor was it a fall, nor an expression of some innate evil peculiar to the human species. It was a journey with a purpose: to experience the extremes of Separation, to develop the gifts that come in response to it, and to integrate all of that in a new age of Reunion.
But we knew at the outset that there was danger in this journey: that we might become lost in Separation and never come back. We might become so alienated from nature that we would destroy the very basis of life; we might become so separated from each other that our poor egos, left naked and terrified, would become incapable of rejoining the community of all being. In other words, we foresaw the crisis we face today.
That is why, thousands of years ago, we planted three seeds that would sprout at the time that our journey of Separation reached its extreme. Three seeds, three transmissions from the past to the future, three ways of preserving and transmitting the truth of the world, the self, and how to be human.
Imagine you were alive thirty thousand years ago, and had a vision of all that was to come: symbolic language, naming and labeling the world; agriculture, the domestication of the wild, dominion over other species and the land; the Machine, the mastery of natural forces; the forgetting of how beautiful and perfect the world is; the atomization of society; a world where humans fear even to drink of the streams and rivers, where we live among strangers and don't know the people next door, where we kill across the planet with the touch of a button, where the seas turn black and the air burns our lungs, where we are so broken that we dare not remember that it isn't supposed to be this way. Imagine you saw it all coming. How would you help people thirty thousand years thence? How would you send information, knowledge, aid over such a vast gulf of time? You see, this actually happened. That is how we came up with the three seeds.
The first seed was the wisdom lineages: lines of transmission going back thousands of years that have preserved and protected essential knowledge. From adept to disciple, in every part of the world, various wisdom traditions have passed down teachings in secret. Wisdom keepers, Sufis, Taoist wizards, Zen masters, mystics, gurus, and many others, hiding within each religion, kept the knowledge safe until the time when the world would be ready to reclaim it. That time is now, and they have done their job well. The time of secrets is over. Released too early, the knowledge was co-opted, abused, or usually just ignored. When we still had not covered the territory of Separation, when we still aspired to widening our conquest of nature, when the story of humanity's Ascent was not yet complete, we weren't ready to hear about union, connectedness, interdependency, inter-being-ness. We thought the answer was more control, more technology, more logic, a better-engineered society of rational ethics, more control over matter, nature, and human nature. But now the old paradigms are failing, and human consciousness has reached a degree of receptivity that allows this seed to spread across the earth. It has been released, and it is growing inside of us en masse.
The second seed was the sacred stories: myths, legends, fairy tales, folklore, and the perennial themes that keep reappearing in various guises throughout history. They have always been with us, so that however far we have wandered into the Labyrinth of Separation, we have always had a lifeline, however tenuous and tangled, to the truth. The stories nurture that tiny spark of memory within us that knows our origin and our destination. The ancients, knowing that the truth would be co-opted and distorted if left in explicit form, encoded it into stories. When we hear or read one of these stories, even if we cannot decode the symbolism, we are affected on an unconscious level. Myths and fairy tales represent a very sophisticated psychic technology. Each generation of storytellers, without consciously intending to, transmits the covert wisdom that it learned, unconsciously, from the stories told it.
Without directly contradicting the paradigms of separation and ascent, our myths and stories have smuggled in a very different understanding of reality. Under the cover of, "It's just a story," they convey emotional, poetic, and spiritual truth that contradicts linear logic, reductionism, determinism, and objectivity. I am not talking here about moralistic stories. Most of those carry little truth. To transmit the second seed, we must humble ourselves to our stories, and not try to use them for our own moralistic ends. They were created by beings far wiser than our modern selves. If you tell or transmit stories, be very respectful of their original form and don't change them unless you feel a poetic upwelling. Pay attention to which children's literature has the feel of a true story. Most recent kids' literature does not. You can recognize a true story by the way its images linger in your mind. It imprints itself on the psyche. You get the feeling that something else has been transmitted alongside the plot, something invisible. Usually, such stories bear rich symbolism often unknown even to their authors. A comparison of two 20th-century children's books illustrates my point: compare a Berenstain Bears story with How the Grinch Stole Christmas. Only the latter has a psychic staying power, revealing the spirit of a true story, and it is rich with archetypal symbolism.
The third seed was the indigenous tribes, the people who at some stage opted out of the journey of separation. Imagine that at the outset of the journey, the Council of Humanity gathered and certain members volunteered to retreat to remote locations and forgo separation, which meant refusing to enter into an adversarial, controlling relationship to nature, and therefore refusing the process that leads to the development of high technology. It also meant that when they were discovered by the humans who had gone deeply into Separation, they would meet with the most atrocious suffering. That was unavoidable.
These people of the third seed have nearly completed their mission today. Their mission was simply to survive long enough to provide living examples of how to be human. Each tribe carried a different piece, sometimes many pieces, of this knowledge. Many of them show us how to see and relate to the land, animals, and plants. Others show us how to work with dreams and the unseen. Some have preserved natural ways of raising children, now spreading through such books as The Continuum Concept. Some show us how to communicate without words - tribes such as the Hazda and the Piraha communicate mostly in song. Some show us how to free ourselves from the mentality of linear time. All of them exemplify a way of being that we intuitively recognize and long for. They stir a memory in our hearts, and awaken our desire to return.
In a recent conversation, the Lakota Aloysius Weasel Bear told me that he once asked his grandfather, "Grandpa, the White Man is destroying everything, shouldn't we try to stop him?" His grandfather replied, "No, it isn't necessary. We will stand by. He will outsmart himself." The grandfather recognized two things in this reply: (1) That Separation carries the seeds of its own demise, and (2) That his people's role is to be themselves. But I don't think that this is an attitude of callousness that leaves the White Man to his just desserts; it is an attitude of compassion and helping that understands the tremendous importance of simply being who they are. They are keeping alive something that the planet and the community of all being needs.
By the same token, our culture's fascination with all things indigenous is not merely the latest form of cultural imperialism and exploitation. True, the final stage of cultural domination would be to turn Native ways into a brand, a marketing image. And certainly there are some in my culture who, sundered from community and from a real identity, adopt Native pseudo-identities and pride themselves on their connections to Native culture, spirituality, people, and so forth. Underneath that, however, we recognize that the surviving First Peoples have something important to teach us. We are drawn to their gift, to the seed that they have preserved until the present time. To receive this seed, it is not necessary to participate in their rituals, take an animal name, or claim a Native ancestor, but only to humbly see what they have preserved, so that memory may awaken. Until recently, such seeing was impossible for us, blinkered by our cultural superiority complex, our arrogance, our apparent success in mastering the universe. Now that converging ecological and social crises reveal the bankruptcy of our ways, we have the eyes to see the ways of others.
The seeds of Reunion are sprouting everywhere. That which was hidden for millennia is coming to light. Soon, fertilized by the detritus of our decaying civilization, the sprouts will mature, bloom, and bear fruit. Our job is first to receive them, then to spread them everywhere and to guard and foster them with every ounce of our love.
Images by Niffty Neal Fowler, used courtesy of a Creative Commons license.
Once upon a time, the tribe of humanity embarked upon a long journey called Separation. It was not a blunder as some - seeing its ravages upon the planet - might think. Nor was it a fall, nor an expression of some innate evil peculiar to the human species. It was a journey with a purpose: to experience the extremes of Separation, to develop the gifts that come in response to it, and to integrate all of that in a new age of Reunion.
But we knew at the outset that there was danger in this journey: that we might become lost in Separation and never come back. We might become so alienated from nature that we would destroy the very basis of life; we might become so separated from each other that our poor egos, left naked and terrified, would become incapable of rejoining the community of all being. In other words, we foresaw the crisis we face today.
That is why, thousands of years ago, we planted three seeds that would sprout at the time that our journey of Separation reached its extreme. Three seeds, three transmissions from the past to the future, three ways of preserving and transmitting the truth of the world, the self, and how to be human.
Imagine you were alive thirty thousand years ago, and had a vision of all that was to come: symbolic language, naming and labeling the world; agriculture, the domestication of the wild, dominion over other species and the land; the Machine, the mastery of natural forces; the forgetting of how beautiful and perfect the world is; the atomization of society; a world where humans fear even to drink of the streams and rivers, where we live among strangers and don't know the people next door, where we kill across the planet with the touch of a button, where the seas turn black and the air burns our lungs, where we are so broken that we dare not remember that it isn't supposed to be this way. Imagine you saw it all coming. How would you help people thirty thousand years thence? How would you send information, knowledge, aid over such a vast gulf of time? You see, this actually happened. That is how we came up with the three seeds.
The first seed was the wisdom lineages: lines of transmission going back thousands of years that have preserved and protected essential knowledge. From adept to disciple, in every part of the world, various wisdom traditions have passed down teachings in secret. Wisdom keepers, Sufis, Taoist wizards, Zen masters, mystics, gurus, and many others, hiding within each religion, kept the knowledge safe until the time when the world would be ready to reclaim it. That time is now, and they have done their job well. The time of secrets is over. Released too early, the knowledge was co-opted, abused, or usually just ignored. When we still had not covered the territory of Separation, when we still aspired to widening our conquest of nature, when the story of humanity's Ascent was not yet complete, we weren't ready to hear about union, connectedness, interdependency, inter-being-ness. We thought the answer was more control, more technology, more logic, a better-engineered society of rational ethics, more control over matter, nature, and human nature. But now the old paradigms are failing, and human consciousness has reached a degree of receptivity that allows this seed to spread across the earth. It has been released, and it is growing inside of us en masse.
The second seed was the sacred stories: myths, legends, fairy tales, folklore, and the perennial themes that keep reappearing in various guises throughout history. They have always been with us, so that however far we have wandered into the Labyrinth of Separation, we have always had a lifeline, however tenuous and tangled, to the truth. The stories nurture that tiny spark of memory within us that knows our origin and our destination. The ancients, knowing that the truth would be co-opted and distorted if left in explicit form, encoded it into stories. When we hear or read one of these stories, even if we cannot decode the symbolism, we are affected on an unconscious level. Myths and fairy tales represent a very sophisticated psychic technology. Each generation of storytellers, without consciously intending to, transmits the covert wisdom that it learned, unconsciously, from the stories told it.
Without directly contradicting the paradigms of separation and ascent, our myths and stories have smuggled in a very different understanding of reality. Under the cover of, "It's just a story," they convey emotional, poetic, and spiritual truth that contradicts linear logic, reductionism, determinism, and objectivity. I am not talking here about moralistic stories. Most of those carry little truth. To transmit the second seed, we must humble ourselves to our stories, and not try to use them for our own moralistic ends. They were created by beings far wiser than our modern selves. If you tell or transmit stories, be very respectful of their original form and don't change them unless you feel a poetic upwelling. Pay attention to which children's literature has the feel of a true story. Most recent kids' literature does not. You can recognize a true story by the way its images linger in your mind. It imprints itself on the psyche. You get the feeling that something else has been transmitted alongside the plot, something invisible. Usually, such stories bear rich symbolism often unknown even to their authors. A comparison of two 20th-century children's books illustrates my point: compare a Berenstain Bears story with How the Grinch Stole Christmas. Only the latter has a psychic staying power, revealing the spirit of a true story, and it is rich with archetypal symbolism.
The third seed was the indigenous tribes, the people who at some stage opted out of the journey of separation. Imagine that at the outset of the journey, the Council of Humanity gathered and certain members volunteered to retreat to remote locations and forgo separation, which meant refusing to enter into an adversarial, controlling relationship to nature, and therefore refusing the process that leads to the development of high technology. It also meant that when they were discovered by the humans who had gone deeply into Separation, they would meet with the most atrocious suffering. That was unavoidable.
These people of the third seed have nearly completed their mission today. Their mission was simply to survive long enough to provide living examples of how to be human. Each tribe carried a different piece, sometimes many pieces, of this knowledge. Many of them show us how to see and relate to the land, animals, and plants. Others show us how to work with dreams and the unseen. Some have preserved natural ways of raising children, now spreading through such books as The Continuum Concept. Some show us how to communicate without words - tribes such as the Hazda and the Piraha communicate mostly in song. Some show us how to free ourselves from the mentality of linear time. All of them exemplify a way of being that we intuitively recognize and long for. They stir a memory in our hearts, and awaken our desire to return.
In a recent conversation, the Lakota Aloysius Weasel Bear told me that he once asked his grandfather, "Grandpa, the White Man is destroying everything, shouldn't we try to stop him?" His grandfather replied, "No, it isn't necessary. We will stand by. He will outsmart himself." The grandfather recognized two things in this reply: (1) That Separation carries the seeds of its own demise, and (2) That his people's role is to be themselves. But I don't think that this is an attitude of callousness that leaves the White Man to his just desserts; it is an attitude of compassion and helping that understands the tremendous importance of simply being who they are. They are keeping alive something that the planet and the community of all being needs.
By the same token, our culture's fascination with all things indigenous is not merely the latest form of cultural imperialism and exploitation. True, the final stage of cultural domination would be to turn Native ways into a brand, a marketing image. And certainly there are some in my culture who, sundered from community and from a real identity, adopt Native pseudo-identities and pride themselves on their connections to Native culture, spirituality, people, and so forth. Underneath that, however, we recognize that the surviving First Peoples have something important to teach us. We are drawn to their gift, to the seed that they have preserved until the present time. To receive this seed, it is not necessary to participate in their rituals, take an animal name, or claim a Native ancestor, but only to humbly see what they have preserved, so that memory may awaken. Until recently, such seeing was impossible for us, blinkered by our cultural superiority complex, our arrogance, our apparent success in mastering the universe. Now that converging ecological and social crises reveal the bankruptcy of our ways, we have the eyes to see the ways of others.
The seeds of Reunion are sprouting everywhere. That which was hidden for millennia is coming to light. Soon, fertilized by the detritus of our decaying civilization, the sprouts will mature, bloom, and bear fruit. Our job is first to receive them, then to spread them everywhere and to guard and foster them with every ounce of our love.
Images by Niffty Neal Fowler, used courtesy of a Creative Commons license.
Friday, April 1, 2011
Joyful Manifesting Intensive begins tomorrow! How to get ready?
I always look forward to our 5 day Manifesting journey which I call the Intensive, because it is 5 days in a row of Resonance Repatterning to clear obstacles. It's different every time, depending on who's in the group and the planetary energies of that particular time.
If this is new to you and you're curious, visit the link above to learn more, or feel free to contact me directly at ProsperityCoachLN@gmail.com.
Here's how to prepare for it:
Find a short bit of time to be alone and get in touch with yourself. Use deep breathing, stretching or whatever you like to do to get into a quiet and receptive mode.
Then ask for, or connect with, two things that feel important, that you would like to manifest in your life now. These two goals or intentions will be what we unblock in the Intensive.
1. The first is your tangible goal..something that would actually exist in a form, that you could see, feel or touch, or recognize when it arrives. (with a business, financial or relationship goal, the outcome might not be something you could physically touch but you would know when it got here.) This relates to the SMART principle of goal setting: a goal should be measurable. The point of this is so you can see a result, or movement towards a result.
For this goal you want to choose something that feels like a bit of a stretch but not outside the realm of possibility.
2. The second is your intangible goal. This is actually more like a state of being, or a beingness goal (is there such a thing?).
For example, peace of mind, being more loving, confidence--any of these could be an intangible goal. They're all great of course, but which quality or way of being would help you the most right now?
State these goals in positive present tense statements, such as:
I am now easily attracting xyz into my life
I am confident
We do this because we are working with the subconscious mind, which does not understand past or present--it only knows the present.
As always, feel free to email me with any questions..and have fun getting your preparation done for the Intensive! If possible try to have this done by tomorrow morning April 2nd. If you don't have time right now, just let it percolate and write down the goals when they come to you. That's a process called retro-intending. I'll explain that another time..
Happy and Joyful Manifesting, y'all!
Wishing you your heart's desires fulfilled for the greatest good of all,
Ellen
If this is new to you and you're curious, visit the link above to learn more, or feel free to contact me directly at ProsperityCoachLN@gmail.com.
Here's how to prepare for it:
Find a short bit of time to be alone and get in touch with yourself. Use deep breathing, stretching or whatever you like to do to get into a quiet and receptive mode.
Then ask for, or connect with, two things that feel important, that you would like to manifest in your life now. These two goals or intentions will be what we unblock in the Intensive.
1. The first is your tangible goal..something that would actually exist in a form, that you could see, feel or touch, or recognize when it arrives. (with a business, financial or relationship goal, the outcome might not be something you could physically touch but you would know when it got here.) This relates to the SMART principle of goal setting: a goal should be measurable. The point of this is so you can see a result, or movement towards a result.
For this goal you want to choose something that feels like a bit of a stretch but not outside the realm of possibility.
2. The second is your intangible goal. This is actually more like a state of being, or a beingness goal (is there such a thing?).
For example, peace of mind, being more loving, confidence--any of these could be an intangible goal. They're all great of course, but which quality or way of being would help you the most right now?
State these goals in positive present tense statements, such as:
I am now easily attracting xyz into my life
I am confident
We do this because we are working with the subconscious mind, which does not understand past or present--it only knows the present.
As always, feel free to email me with any questions..and have fun getting your preparation done for the Intensive! If possible try to have this done by tomorrow morning April 2nd. If you don't have time right now, just let it percolate and write down the goals when they come to you. That's a process called retro-intending. I'll explain that another time..
Happy and Joyful Manifesting, y'all!
Wishing you your heart's desires fulfilled for the greatest good of all,
Ellen
Found this inspiring reminder digging in my own (blog)backyard!
In reading through my own blog (I should do that more, it's pretty darn good imnsho), I found this gem. Full post is on September 10, 2010. (this is a reprint of other's writing btw).
What is expected from each one of us in nothing less than remembering, accepting and integrating in every facet of our existence and within the very fabric of our waking consciousness the fact that we each are a Living Miracle, the embodiment of Universal Perfection, and the co-Maker of our evolving reality.
All we need to do is ask... Ask for an universal upgrade... Ask to have our physical self, brain, bones and blood, adjusted to the higher frequencies now seeping through every atom of our physical reality to catalyze and precipitate the Shift of Ages into an unprecedented era of Heaven on Earth, Blissful Happiness in every soul, and ongoing Communion with the universal family of souls living throughout this galactic Milky Way and beyond in the Grand Symphony of Light, Life and Love
You may choose to remain on the sideline of evolution and persist in sticking to your egoic certainties and separate sense of self. There is absolutely nothing wrong in doing so, for you have absolute freewill, just like every other soul in existence. Or you may choose to shift up towards the Light calling us all back into full remembrance of our truly universal, divine nature."
What is expected from each one of us in nothing less than remembering, accepting and integrating in every facet of our existence and within the very fabric of our waking consciousness the fact that we each are a Living Miracle, the embodiment of Universal Perfection, and the co-Maker of our evolving reality.
All we need to do is ask... Ask for an universal upgrade... Ask to have our physical self, brain, bones and blood, adjusted to the higher frequencies now seeping through every atom of our physical reality to catalyze and precipitate the Shift of Ages into an unprecedented era of Heaven on Earth, Blissful Happiness in every soul, and ongoing Communion with the universal family of souls living throughout this galactic Milky Way and beyond in the Grand Symphony of Light, Life and Love
You may choose to remain on the sideline of evolution and persist in sticking to your egoic certainties and separate sense of self. There is absolutely nothing wrong in doing so, for you have absolute freewill, just like every other soul in existence. Or you may choose to shift up towards the Light calling us all back into full remembrance of our truly universal, divine nature."
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