It's February: Be Your Own Valentine with Embodied Self-Love

Our monthly focus for Valentine's month is "Embodied Self-Love".

The phrase “Love yourself” is used so often that the words started to lose their meaning. I knew that feeling love for myself makes me feel happy, and I also understood that self-love is a key to better relationships.  Although a cliché by now, it's true that “In order to be loved by others, or truly love another, you have to love yourself first”.

I knew that self-love was important yet it was becoming another task on the do-list. More "work"!   I've been learning ways that really work and make self-love more joyful, which I'm happy to share with you.
 
 I practice self-love through kind and compassionate self-talk.  Monitoring my thoughts and being more careful with the words I “speak” to myself, is an empowering new habit. These days—most of the time, even when I “slip” into speaking poorly of myself, or beating myself up, I see it faster and forgive rather than judge myself for that.

 Awareness Practice: To deepen your awareness of your self-talk-imagine the voice of your ‘inner roommate’ as if you could hear it externally, like the sound of another person’s voice.  Write down the words you hear and then ask yourself: “Is this really true? Is it kind, is it necessary? Is this what I need to hear right now?  What is this inner critical voice trying to do for me (usually it’s trying to keep you safe) and is this the best way to do that? What would be a more supportive way to talk to myself?” 

Take this a step further, beyond mental awareness, into the body.   I’ve been doing that this past year, and I feel the difference on a cellular, tangible level.  My love for my whole being, my desire and joy in taking loving care of my health, my body and my boundaries, is stronger and deeper. After my initial resistance, I know enjoy this and look forward to it.

This practice took root in me after a workshop with my wonderful qigong and Daoist teacher, Daniel Villasenor, who said, “You can grow self-love simply by self-cultivation (mindful touch).”  Curious to see-- could it be that simple to cultivate self-love like a seed, with touch?--I began.  Gradaully I’ve grown to love it and treasure the gifts I receive from it—vitality, pleasure, and self-love.  Try it, you’ll like it!   

Embodied Self-Love Practice--simple, yet profound.  What is this? The embodied self-love practice is about touching yourself regularly with love and kindness. Through doing this, it becomes natural to appreciate your body more, and feel more sensual, sensitive and fully alive.

Daily, or a few times a week, touch your body like a caring friend or lover, using organic coconut or grapeseed oil.  Depending on the time you’ve set aside, you can massage the whole body, just the face, or whichever places that want your touch the most, and don’t be shy to include your intimate areas.

Make it a ritual, use soft music or candles if you like.  It doesn’t need to take long, most days it’s about 10 minutes for me, though sometimes I treat myself to a longer ‘session’. You can do this any time of day, though some people find it too stimulating at night.  (I can share more with you about this practice privately or in a small group call, so contact me with your questions)

How does this work? The body is literal—it translates being touched with love to “I am loved.  My body is lovable, my life matters.”  We learn this in infancy—only infants that get touched will thrive and touch tells the infant it is loved.   (This concept is the basis, in fact, of the “Self-Acceptance Repatterning”.  I'm very happy to offer you this session or whichever repatterning you need to increase your self-love and acceptance.) 

Touch feeds your parasympathetic nervous system, which in turn helps you relax, and feel more connected to yourself and to others.  It will help you digest and sleep better, and feel more peaceful.

From a Daoist point of view, self-touch, especially around our intimate areas, enlivens and reconnects us to our jing, the core creative and procreative energy that gave us the spark of life.
From concept to embodied reality, this practice generates an internal feeling of goodness, acceptance and pleasure--that which I always longed for a partner to provide. Embodied self-love can be your key too, to being more fulfilled and free from any dependence on a partner or friends for approval and attention.      

If you desire a new partner or a richer relationship with your current partner, embodied self-love will help you come to your relationship full, rather than from lack or neediness.  It will benefit you even if you are not in partnership or not wanting one, by freeing you to experience more love, pleasure and satisfaction.

It’s a great way to finally end that vain effort to fill a hollow place in yourself with water from another’s well, to liberate yourself from needing food, substances, entertainment, money, achievement or material goods to feel satisfied.  Now THAT is abundance and true flourishing!    

Experiment, let me know how it goes. I’m here for encouragement and guidance if you need it.  Let the joy, pleasure and self-love begin.
Here's to loving and celebrating your glorious Self, 
Ellen .

Happy Chinese New Year--year of the Wood Horse! This  New Year began on January 31st.  Wood is the element of spring and new growth, and we know the freedom-loving high spirited power of Horse.  Be prepared for MOVEMENT this year!

Ironically, we have just entered Mercury retrograde as of the 6th...so things will slow down a bit this month. Mercury is retrograde in Pisces, which can make us dreamy and more right-brained than usual.  Hopefully you have taken advantage of the session I do for this Mercury retrograde journey!

For February, in keeping with Valentine's Day, my theme is "Embodied Self-Love".  Look for an article on this topic in my next blog post..along with a fresh "twist" on the idea of self-love. 

Meantime, Joyful Manifesting--new and improved, Version 2.0--is coming right up. Register by midnight February 11th.  Use this program of distance energy shifts and belief clearing, all done for you, to remove obstacles, clear limiting beliefs, get unstuck and get the energy moving for any goal:  more self-love, attracting a partner, improving your present relationship---or in any other area of your life where you could use a powerful boost. 

More info and registration link is here:http://www.repattern.com/manifesting.shtml

Get your manifesting energy rolling! The shifts begin as soon as you sign up..no need to wait. 

Many blessings,
Ellen

PS For 2014 I've upgraded and enhanced the program, and am calling it version 2.0.  It will
provide the same transformation, energy boost and forward momentum as always, but it's
been reformatted to make it more user friendly, to keep the shifts gentler, more consistent and
even.

What's changed in version 2.0? The biggest changes are:

1. Sessions are monthly instead of every other month,
2. Three sessions during the week, instead of 5 (less intense, STILL great shifts)
3. You have a lower-cost subscription option OR sign up a la carte for any month you want to do it.

Wait---I'm not quite ready for a New Year!

Then you're in the right place and your Fairy Godmother has 3 gifts for you.
 
Turning a calendar page is NOT the same as turning a new leaf.  Just because it is New Year's Day, your inner organic timing may not match the calendar exactly.  Didn't these holidays go by in a blur, very fast:  Solstice, Xmas and New Year's? 
 
Take this window of time between today's New Moon and the Full Moon on the 15th to look back at the year just passed to come to completion, and decide what you are letting go of, and what you want to bring into 2014.  

And come join us for the group repatterning on January 7th, "Manifest your Intentions for the New Year, with Grace, Joy and Ease".  Registration at www.repattern.com. 
 
These three gifts are recordings of teleseminars I led recently.  Please listen as you are guided, and share with others too! Just send them a link to this blog.  

If you listen in sequence to each of these three recordings, they will provide a journey for you.  Or just listen to whichever ones you are guided to!
 
Solstice guided ritual: Healing and relaxing guided journey (about 30 minutes):
 http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WxCRMGFx
 
Opening to Prosperity (prosperity teaching and coaching, about 45 minutes)
http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WgH3hXjx
 
 
Ring Out the Old, Ring in the New: Make Room for More Prosperity in 2014 (about 25 minutes)
We connected with the devas of 2013 and 2014, and did the Integration for Completion process for endings and new beginning

http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WqlyKlZx

Many blessings for the New Year,
Ellen

A Rare and Auspicious Event: New Moon in Capricorn, New Year's Day

A very auspicious time, this New Year's Day.  Here' s a  good article on it from Bekah Finch Turner
published at the website "Conscious Life News" .  Find it at:http://consciouslifenews.com/capricorn-new-moon-means-auspicious-start-2014/1169207/#

Bekah writes:
"I don’t tend to follow our agreed-upon western calendar in terms of cycles or seasons. I still prefer the moon and the earth to guide me.  The idea that January 1st is the new year has never made any real sense to me energetically. January is such a dreary month anyway and I like either celebrating solstice or even Chinese new year for a new beginning. But 2014 is a little different because the first new moon of the year happens to fall on new year’s day. And it is not just any new moon, it is Capricorn, the queen of the mountain, initiator of winter, earth element in its most powerful and challenging.

To me, someone who tries to honor cycle, season, moon, earth, intuition, spirit and goddess, there is something incredibly auspicious about this line up. Particularly as we are coming out of such a hard year. There are challenges ahead, don’t get me wrong, 2014 will have its bumps and ebbs, but I don’t know; when I look at the little new moon symbol in Capricorn next to January 1st on my calendar, it gives me butterflies.

The Capricorn new moon is the best of the year to start foundational work. This is the sign of resolutions, making plans and mapping the course. As so many already use Jan 1st as the day of new beginnings, having the strength of Capricorn behind it makes me feel like those intentions might have the ability to manifest better than usual, and they also run the risk of holding us more accountable than usual.

Saturn rules Capricorn and Saturn is big daddy planet, the strict father figure of astrology that keeps us in line and has no qualms about forcing us back on the horse, or goat, rather, when we either fall or jump off.

This is a new moon to really take some time to decide what your true goals are for the year to come. This is not the year to write down those resolutions you just write because you always do (make a million dollars, get married, lose 50 lbs) unless you truly intend to get to work.

Saturn and Capricorn are listening this time and you don’t want to tell them something you don’t mean because they do not have a sense of humor and they don’t think not following through is funny. At all.

I recommend getting out on the earth this new year’s day. Walk to the park, or better, climb a hill or mountain. Sit or stand with feet or sit bones firmly on the ground, connecting you to her strength. Consider your physical world.

Capricorn is best for goals around the physical and material. What do you really want? What is your long-term dream, the top of the mountain, so to speak? What actions can you take to get there? What do you really need to live the life you want?

Be serious. Be practical but also, believe in yourself. Believe you have the ability and support to achieve your goals this year. Tell the earth and the moon that you are ready and willing to do what needs to be done. If you are clear and diligent in your intentions, Capi and Saturn are two of the best allies you could ever want and you will get to the top in 2014.

I wish you, and all beings, a prosperous and auspicious new moon and new year."

Happy New Year to you, with many blessings,
Ellen

PS January 7th, my first offering in 2014, a group repatterning.  Participate by teleclass or proxy. It's called:
"Forget Your Resolutions: Manifest your New Year's Intentions with Joy, Grace and Ease"

Registration is now open at http://www.repattern.com/Manifest_NewYear.shtml

Teleclass: More Room for Prosperity in 2014: "Ring Out the Old, Ring in the New": How to prepare and enter the New Year

You're invited to my last offering in 2013, just in time for the last day of the year and New Year's Day! 

Together we'll go through a process for coming to peace with 2013, gathering the lessons of this year and this phase of your life. We will do some great clearing out of your "psychic" junk drawer. Good Feng Shui for your inner world.
 
In the teleseminar, you'll receive supportive prosperity teaching, a tasty sample of the great stuff I'm cooking up for you in 2014--a NEW  support "salon" called "Elevate Your Prosperity Power: Unblock Your Cash  Flow."

Join us for the teleseminar if you can--and read on below for information on how to prepare for this teleseminar and for entering the New Year!  End 2013 lighter, clearer and ready for a fresh start aided by the Capricorn New Moon.  You can also get the link to the recording if you can't be on with us.

Tuesday December 31st, Noon Eastern.  F*ree teleclass
Topic: Ring Out the Old, Ring in the New:  Making Room for more prosperity in 2014
 
Dial in to: +1 559-546-1301 Access code: 279607
 (this call will be recorded)

How to prepare for this call, and for entering your New Year:
You can do the following preparation before tomorrow's call, or if you are going to listen to the recording later, use these instructions before you start the recording. 

You can also simply use this process by itself to move into "completion mode".

Go ahead, clear some time and space for yourself to do this.  Then prepare your body--stretch, dance for a few minutes, shake out your body, whatever works for you.  Take a few deep breaths and consciously relax your body.  If you have a way you like to connect to Source, or to your higher self, go ahead and do that now. 

Then have a sense of the year ahead, like a glass jar.  This jar isn’t empty, though—it’s filled with the stones that are intentions and goals from the past.  Empty the jar out, and sort through them..which are the ones that don’t fit any more?  List a few that seem important to let go of. 

If this image doesn’t work for you, you can use your own, or simply ask, “What do I want to let go of as I move into this New Year?  What isn’t or hasn’t been working, or what feels outdated and outmoded?”

Now notice how you feel about letting them go…does it feel possible and easy, or difficult and scary?  Does it bring up self doubt or negative/limiting beliefs and thoughts?  Write those down too.

Is forgiveness needed--towards yourself, a mate or family member, a friend or co-worker, a boss or parent, a teacher, a community or family?  What about towards Creator, "the economy"? 

See if you are ready to release any anger, fear, resentment towards whomever or whatever.  If so, breathe in, breathe out and let the feelings, the thoughts, flow out like a tide.

When you feel at peace (and this process can be done whenever needed!), move on to what you do want—there may be new stones you want to add.  Or maybe you simply need to re-energize and activate what’s already in the jar.   One way to see what you want, if you aren't sure, is to state the opposite of what you don't want or are letting go of. 

Sometimes, though, what we want to bring in is not in relation to what it is that we’ve let go of.    Welcome what is entirely new as well!  
 
You may choose to focus on just personal or professional goals/intentions, or combine them.   What feels most alive and juicy, what will unlock more joy and fulfillment for you in the coming year?

My experience is that it’s hard to hold more than three intentions in my mind and energy field.  That's why whenever I begin another round of Joyful Manifesting, I ask you to come up with two intentions, occasionally three.  The mind can't focus on more than that at once, even if you ARE the queen (or king) of multi-tasking.

Enjoy the journey, let me know what you learn or appreciate about it if you do it.

See you on the call, noon Eastern, December 31, 2013,
"Ring Out the Old, Ring in the New: Make Room for More Prosperity in 2014"

Happy Solstice and blessings of the season to you.  Did you miss my Winter Solstice meditation?  You can still enjoy it, as my gift to you, by going here to listen: http://www.audioacrobat.com/play/WxCRMGFx

We are now in the in-between time, the void or blank-slate time, as we transition from the old year to the new and as we enter the very earliest stage of the next harvest cycle.

This is a perfect time (or right after Xmas) to relax, look back at the year past, learn from it, let go and open to the new.  

Join me this Friday at noon, Eastern time, 12/27, called "Opening to Prosperity". Skip down to the PS to get the phone#.

Meantime, enjoy this message--which appeared in perfect timing in my in-box this morning, right on the topic of receiving. 

Mastering Receiving ~ Key Preparation for 2014
By Selacia

"The year 2014 will come with opportunities for shifting your life in a grand way – do you feel prepared to receive your good?

How you relate to the world will be a key factor in what you experience during 2014. This can mean many things, of course, but for the purposes of this article, the focus is receiving.

How You Receive Influences Your Experience
The way you receive from the world will influence your experience and how you feel about your life. This is nothing new, of course.

However, next year as the pace of evolutionary change quickens, you will need new levels of mastery involving receiving.

What’s receiving? It’s accepting or taking what is offered – by another person, group, entity, the world in general, or even spirit. What you receive can involve things like information, validation or praise, a physical object, a reward or financial compensation, or something you consider a blessing.

Mastery of receiving is rooted in self-love and a learned ability to consciously and appropriately receive what the world offers you. This involves being present, aware, and skilled with observation – discerning what is appropriate and precisely when to receive it. It means asking questions about what you are receiving, too, to gain clarity and understanding of how to respond.

As you become experienced with receiving, you intuitively recognize what is being offered and you know when something is in your highest good. You trust in divine timing, too, allowing that to guide your receiving. This means that you don’t try to get ahead of yourself, pushing for things before they are appropriate.

The DNA of Deserving and Receiving
You will be less likely to get impatient with timing issues if you believe that you deserve the good that can come to you. You cannot will this feeling, of course.

The conditioning of most people, in fact, is to doubt whether they deserve to receive as much as the next person. This tends to be generational – meaning that your ancestors had the same conditioning and you inherited it in your DNA.

If you sense that your receiving ability could use a tune up, DNA-level patterns or beliefs are likely surfacing. How the energy works is that dysfunctional DNA beliefs get catalyzed by key life events and significant personal goals. In this case, the beliefs could relate to what you think you deserve or how you feel the world treats you. They get triggered when you are about to take another big leap forward or change something significant about your circumstances.

In reality, life is abundant and there is enough of everything to go around. You don’t have to stand single-file to wait your turn, and you aren’t gambling. Receiving is not about luck. It’s about being in a flow with life, trusting that flow, and observing the flow as it comes in.
 
You Must Trust You Deserve
For mastery, you must trust that you deserve to receive fully from the bounty of what is available to you.

In fact, if you doubt that you deserve something, your own self-doubt can block your awareness of gifts right outside your door! This circumvents your flow of incoming goodness, your mind being tricked to think that you cannot have what you want.

As part of that, something good indeed could show up, but your doubt could obscure your understanding. Example: you ask for help with something, then the next day a helpful person calls or you awaken from a dream with insights from spirit. Unable to connect the dots, you may be convinced that you received nothing.

24/7 Sending and Receiving
Think of yourself like a 24/7 sending and receiving station, broadcasting to and from the world. Even when you are sleeping, you are sending energetic impulses reflecting your thoughts, feelings, and desires. You are receiving during sleep, too, through dreams and by connecting with spirit.

Remember: spirit knows you intimately. Your higher self knows your question before you even ask. The mere asking of your question sets in motion an energetic exchange between you and spirit. This includes the physical world, of course, as spirit has unlimited means of communicating with you.

With wisdom, you will realize that the world is sending you an endless flow of beneficial energies, things, people, and opportunities. Some may be disguised as troublesome manipulators – like the boss who hovers over you, critical and trying to control your every move. Even that boss, however, bears a gift – stirring your desire to be more empowered.

End the year with a higher frequency by examining and updating your relationship with the world. You can do this through purposeful, conscious reflection of how you interact with people and the larger world. Invite spirit to reveal your blocks to receiving fully – ask to be shown how you can better master the art of receiving. Trust that in the asking, spirit begins to work with you, helping you to unravel old dysfunctional patterns and to embody the higher octaves of love."

Copyright 2013 by Selacia or at Earths Pivotal Years

A full moon update for you from Jose and Lena Stevens...this is the first part of the Power Path Full Moon report...you can subscribe for all their updates at www.thepowerpath.com.

 

"Full moon is Tuesday, December 17 at 2:28AM MST (Mountain Standard Time). You may wish to celebrate it the night of Monday, December 16. Use this full moon to expand your sense of what could be. The time between this full moon and the Winter Solstice should be honored and quality time should be carved out to do what brings you joy. What brings you joy? What feeds you spiritually? What do you still need to adjust and revise and modify? What do you need to let go of? What needs expansion and more inspiration? Ask these questions and then go for it!

The energy definitely shifts as we approach the Full Moon and then the Winter Solstice (on the 21). You may feel jerked around by things seeming one way today and upside down tomorrow. This is a time of sudden adjustments often made by others but affecting you. There will be many lessons around attachments to how you think things ought to be and how you think people ought to behave. It is important to keep asking the questions, to keep focused on your own truth and on what you want and to stay out of negativity and judgment. Make the adjustments and move on..."

 

How do YOU ride the full moon energy?  Often I will look at what is completing, what it is I've been learning lately, and what I need to let go of.  I may clean a part of my house or put my crystals out to absorb full moon energy and be recharged by the earth. 

 

Would love to hear from you--what do you do?

 

Happy Full Moon....and Solstice is coming too!

 

Please join me for a Solstice ritual and gathering (via conference call, free) this coming Saturday at 10am Mountain. 

 

Winter and holiday blessings,

Ellen