Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Get Your Gratitude in Gear tomorrow night & all month!
To inspire you, here's an article on the neuroscience of gratitude: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ocean-robbins/having-gratitude-_b_1073105.html?ref=fb&src=sp&comm_ref=false (thanks to Adela Rubio for sharing this)
In honor of gratitude month I am posting on my Facebook fan page, 21 days of saying three things I'm grateful for. As I do this, and look for things to be grateful for, more good stuff happens! Come join me if you'd like to participate at Solopreneur Woman on Facebook and get your gratitude energy in gear!
Also, tomorrow night November 9th, I have a teleclass called "Get Your Gratitude in Gear" to celebrate and reinforce this month of gratitude. We've all been told that gratitude is good for us, and that it's always good to be thankful, but how do you do it when life isn't going your way, when the money isn't there, or whatever is showing up that we don't want..?
There'll be some teaching and group support and energy work on this call. It's part of a new series of monthly free teleclasses on "Your Time To Thrive", designed to share my work more widely, introduce myself to new people and reconnect with my tribe, while creating more uplifting vibrations and community.
Time: 7pm Mountain, 9pm Eastern time. "Get Your Gratitude in Gear" is a one hour teleclass.
It will be recorded. Dial in to: 1-(218) 237-3840 Guest Pin# 134971
I'm so grateful for you...my blog readers!
In gratitude,
Ellen
PS Please invite others to tomorrow night's call...all are welcome!
Wednesday, October 26, 2011
Today's New Moon and how to use the November energies
The next several days are
going to be power packed with energies of letting go and opening to the new, so
do tune in….and know that I am offering a lot of support in November for
you.
Today is the New Moon in Scorpio, it is also the start of Diwali, the Indian new year..in which the goddess Lakshmi, goddess of abundance is honored. As with all new moons, this is a perfect day to ask yourself: “What do I want to create or manifest at this time, for this 4 week cycle and beyond?”
Scorpio, the sign we have just entered until late December, is about letting go of the old, and moving deeper into the mysteries of transformation, death and rebirth. We also have the ancient earth-based holidays of Samhain and All Hallows Eve, the Day of the Dead, as October ends and November begins.
What is dying, what is wanting to end, and what is wanting to come in? What are you most wanting to transform so you can give birth to your new self? You can use this time wisely by spending some time alone and going inside, journaling, doing some movement or whatever helps you find your place of peace and inner wisdom.
I have a number of events coming up in November and December that I want to let you know about. A more detailed calendar will go out in just a few days, but here are the highlights:
Nov. 9 will mark a return to doing a monthly free call, and I’m looking forward to it! It will be an introduction for new people and a reunion for many of us who haven’t been on calls together. I will be doing some teaching and energy work, not a full repatterning session, but you will come away shifted—at least that’s my goal! These will take place on the 1st or 2nd Wednesday of the month. The overall topic is “Thrive Your Life” and there will be different themes for each class. They will be recorded as well.
In closing, this quote from astrologer Robert Wilkinson (Google the Aquarius papers for his website):
“Be generous of Spirit, show care, and the rewards will be great. Be a good steward, and build so that the good works will endure well into the future. This month we get new views on how we can join with others to conquer a form of "separativeness through group-cooperation." Through the projects we accept that truly help others, we can lose all sense of separateness.
This time should be fairly productive, even if there is a lot of tension and separations from illusions. Cooperation breeds evolution, and problems can be solved by applied cooperative intelligence and skills. Find projects that benefit the evolutionary needs of self and/or others, and this time of applied skill will yield rewards by late November and early December.”
Today is the New Moon in Scorpio, it is also the start of Diwali, the Indian new year..in which the goddess Lakshmi, goddess of abundance is honored. As with all new moons, this is a perfect day to ask yourself: “What do I want to create or manifest at this time, for this 4 week cycle and beyond?”
Scorpio, the sign we have just entered until late December, is about letting go of the old, and moving deeper into the mysteries of transformation, death and rebirth. We also have the ancient earth-based holidays of Samhain and All Hallows Eve, the Day of the Dead, as October ends and November begins.
What is dying, what is wanting to end, and what is wanting to come in? What are you most wanting to transform so you can give birth to your new self? You can use this time wisely by spending some time alone and going inside, journaling, doing some movement or whatever helps you find your place of peace and inner wisdom.
I have a number of events coming up in November and December that I want to let you know about. A more detailed calendar will go out in just a few days, but here are the highlights:
Nov. 9 will mark a return to doing a monthly free call, and I’m looking forward to it! It will be an introduction for new people and a reunion for many of us who haven’t been on calls together. I will be doing some teaching and energy work, not a full repatterning session, but you will come away shifted—at least that’s my goal! These will take place on the 1st or 2nd Wednesday of the month. The overall topic is “Thrive Your Life” and there will be different themes for each class. They will be recorded as well.
Other upcoming sessions and
programs:
11/14: Manifesting Monday session for clearing
obstacles (proxy)
11/16: Eating Healthy,
Staying Happy: Stress free holiday eating and celebrations (phone or proxy)
11/20: Aligned for Mercury
Retrograde ( proxy)
11/21-25: Joyful Manifesting
Intensive (5 day proxy program of energy shifts to help you manifest two
goals).
In closing, this quote from astrologer Robert Wilkinson (Google the Aquarius papers for his website):
“Be generous of Spirit, show care, and the rewards will be great. Be a good steward, and build so that the good works will endure well into the future. This month we get new views on how we can join with others to conquer a form of "separativeness through group-cooperation." Through the projects we accept that truly help others, we can lose all sense of separateness.
This time should be fairly productive, even if there is a lot of tension and separations from illusions. Cooperation breeds evolution, and problems can be solved by applied cooperative intelligence and skills. Find projects that benefit the evolutionary needs of self and/or others, and this time of applied skill will yield rewards by late November and early December.”
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
What Else is Possible?
Our subconscious mind is programmed to fill in the blank when we ask open ended questions...it does not like to have something dangling at the end of a sentence, unanswered.
Instead of "Why can't I do better?" or "Why isn't what I want to happen, happening?" or "Why isn't he or she more understanding?" which keep us locked into the problem, we can switch to solution focus by asking open ended "How" questions.
My favorite two questions of the moment are used in powerful work called Access Consciousness. They are:
"What Else is Possible?" and "How Does it Get Any Better than This?"
Let me know how your life changes when you start using them..and I'll do the same!
Many blessings,
Ellen
Instead of "Why can't I do better?" or "Why isn't what I want to happen, happening?" or "Why isn't he or she more understanding?" which keep us locked into the problem, we can switch to solution focus by asking open ended "How" questions.
My favorite two questions of the moment are used in powerful work called Access Consciousness. They are:
"What Else is Possible?" and "How Does it Get Any Better than This?"
Let me know how your life changes when you start using them..and I'll do the same!
Many blessings,
Ellen
Tuesday, October 11, 2011
The Turning Point: Full Moon Update
Tonight is a full moon..a great time to name and release whatever you are ready to let go of. This is why I'm being guided to offer sessions that clear the roots of our issues at the oldest and deepest levels... Ancestral Patterns and clearing past life karma. It's time for THE CHANGE, to become who we are meant to be without all that baggage.
To learn more about what I'm offering, visit my website at http://www.repattern.com/Ancestral_Alchemy.shtml
The full moon seems especially auspicious because of this month's theme according to shamanic healers and intuitives, Jose and Lena Stevens. The theme for the month of October is the "Turning Point." They give a simple exercise in the excerpt below to help you align with the theme of the month. Enjoy!
Excerpted from their monthly forecast which can be found at www.thepowerpath.com:
The main theme for October 2011 is Turning Point.
"The image is that of facing a well-known view, in fact a view you have become so accustomed to you hardly notice it anymore. And now you have just realized that you are turning away from this view 90 degrees to the right and leaving it completely behind in order to face a new view. Suddenly it dawns on you that the old view will be gone forever, never to be seen again in the same way. There is nostalgia around the permanence of the loss of this old view. It is familiar to you and it has served to inspire, entertain, give you feedback and be a placeholder in your life.
You realize that once you turn towards the new view the old one is gone forever. And despite the inadequacies of the old view in matching a new time, there is a resistance to giving it up and turning towards the unknown. What if the new view isn't as good as the old one? What if you won't be able to see the new view? What if it is not a clear view, or an inspiring one? What if there is no new view?
The Turning Point can also be called the Point of No Return. When one season ends and another begins, as in moving from Summer to Fall, there is no going back. You have passed the point of no return. And as you move clockwise around the medicine wheel from one direction to the next, you are at a point of no return as you arrive at the new position or direction.
The natural progression in moving forward is always clockwise or to your right. That is the way the clock works, the seasons roll, and wheels move forward. So we are at the point of turning clockwise into a new landscape providing us with a new view. We have been creating this new view for a while now. We just have not turned our sights on it as yet.
The new view has been waiting for our much-needed focus on it to come into being and we are just now at that point but some of us still unwilling to make the final turn. What we do not realize in our resistance is that the new view is fabulous, inspiring, supportive and perfect for where we need to go. However in order to see the new view we must turn away from the old one and turn towards the new one. This is happening whether you are choosing to or not. We are truly at the Turning Point right now.
Another image to work with is the idea of the Turning Point as the point at which there is enough energy moving in a certain direction to insure a result. If you have been ill and are recovering, there is turning point in your illness where you are insured a recovery. The same thing applies to an ending or a death. There is a certain turning point at which there is a certainty about the outcome. When a lot of energy is being put into building a business or starting a project, or cultivating a relationship, there is always a turning point at which it either takes off or you see that it won't work.
This month you have the opportunity to experience turning points in many aspects of your life. Perhaps you have set certain intentions, and worked with them over time. This month you may get to experience a turning point in manifesting those intentions. Other themes of the month are Transition/Transformation and Death/Rebirth. Transition/Transformation and Death/Rebirth are similar in that they both use the turning point to move from one point to another. The main characteristic of this change as a turning point is that there is finality to the ending of one experience that automatically turns you towards another one.
What is the experience of the Turning Point trying to teach us this month? What we need to learn is to be more present so we can fully embrace what is in front of us and then let it go with gratitude for the experience it provided. We need to learn to be less attached so that we can turn away from the old view and toward the new one with less resistance. We also need to learn to be more trusting and confident that the view we are creating that we are turning toward is exactly what we want and need. We need to face this view with confidence, enthusiasm and excitement instead of with fear.
Many of you know that there is a marker at the end of this month that marks the official end of the Mayan Calendar, namely the date of October 28, 2011. There are many predictions about what may happen at this time. Some predict 3 days of darkness, some predict major earth changes, some predict that nothing significant will happen, and other predict that the changes will be mostly personal, emotional and psychological
October 28, 2011 is simply a marker as it is impossible to predict what the Turning Point will manifest. What we can predict is change and transition that brings us all beyond the point of no return. How the month shows up: YOU PERSONALLY Use the month to get present. Use the month to fully take in your experiences with gratitude and use the month to fully release what you are turning away from.
You may go through feelings of nostalgia, sadness and even some grief, much of it general and not really connected to anything. Nostalgia is in the air as we are turning towards a new view. See and experience everything with presence. Practice saying goodbye to what you know, and hello to the unknown view ahead. This is an incredible time where you can experience the turning point towards the positive in many areas you have put energy into.
It is a good month for manifesting especially something you have been putting your focus into for a long time. You may also feel compelled to finally let go of what is holding you back from that new view. Make friends with death and the finality of its lessons.
A good exercise to do daily would be to face a literal view that you are familiar with and then to turn 90 degrees to your right, trying on the experience that you will never see the old view again. Take in the beauty and wonder of the new view and see its possibilities as positive and supportive. Do this as many times during the day wherever you are to practice the experience of the turning point."
Wishing you an incredible journey through this month of change and beyond,
Ellen
The full moon seems especially auspicious because of this month's theme according to shamanic healers and intuitives, Jose and Lena Stevens. The theme for the month of October is the "Turning Point." They give a simple exercise in the excerpt below to help you align with the theme of the month. Enjoy!
Excerpted from their monthly forecast which can be found at www.thepowerpath.com:
The main theme for October 2011 is Turning Point.
"The image is that of facing a well-known view, in fact a view you have become so accustomed to you hardly notice it anymore. And now you have just realized that you are turning away from this view 90 degrees to the right and leaving it completely behind in order to face a new view. Suddenly it dawns on you that the old view will be gone forever, never to be seen again in the same way. There is nostalgia around the permanence of the loss of this old view. It is familiar to you and it has served to inspire, entertain, give you feedback and be a placeholder in your life.
You realize that once you turn towards the new view the old one is gone forever. And despite the inadequacies of the old view in matching a new time, there is a resistance to giving it up and turning towards the unknown. What if the new view isn't as good as the old one? What if you won't be able to see the new view? What if it is not a clear view, or an inspiring one? What if there is no new view?
The Turning Point can also be called the Point of No Return. When one season ends and another begins, as in moving from Summer to Fall, there is no going back. You have passed the point of no return. And as you move clockwise around the medicine wheel from one direction to the next, you are at a point of no return as you arrive at the new position or direction.
The natural progression in moving forward is always clockwise or to your right. That is the way the clock works, the seasons roll, and wheels move forward. So we are at the point of turning clockwise into a new landscape providing us with a new view. We have been creating this new view for a while now. We just have not turned our sights on it as yet.
The new view has been waiting for our much-needed focus on it to come into being and we are just now at that point but some of us still unwilling to make the final turn. What we do not realize in our resistance is that the new view is fabulous, inspiring, supportive and perfect for where we need to go. However in order to see the new view we must turn away from the old one and turn towards the new one. This is happening whether you are choosing to or not. We are truly at the Turning Point right now.
Another image to work with is the idea of the Turning Point as the point at which there is enough energy moving in a certain direction to insure a result. If you have been ill and are recovering, there is turning point in your illness where you are insured a recovery. The same thing applies to an ending or a death. There is a certain turning point at which there is a certainty about the outcome. When a lot of energy is being put into building a business or starting a project, or cultivating a relationship, there is always a turning point at which it either takes off or you see that it won't work.
This month you have the opportunity to experience turning points in many aspects of your life. Perhaps you have set certain intentions, and worked with them over time. This month you may get to experience a turning point in manifesting those intentions. Other themes of the month are Transition/Transformation and Death/Rebirth. Transition/Transformation and Death/Rebirth are similar in that they both use the turning point to move from one point to another. The main characteristic of this change as a turning point is that there is finality to the ending of one experience that automatically turns you towards another one.
What is the experience of the Turning Point trying to teach us this month? What we need to learn is to be more present so we can fully embrace what is in front of us and then let it go with gratitude for the experience it provided. We need to learn to be less attached so that we can turn away from the old view and toward the new one with less resistance. We also need to learn to be more trusting and confident that the view we are creating that we are turning toward is exactly what we want and need. We need to face this view with confidence, enthusiasm and excitement instead of with fear.
Many of you know that there is a marker at the end of this month that marks the official end of the Mayan Calendar, namely the date of October 28, 2011. There are many predictions about what may happen at this time. Some predict 3 days of darkness, some predict major earth changes, some predict that nothing significant will happen, and other predict that the changes will be mostly personal, emotional and psychological
October 28, 2011 is simply a marker as it is impossible to predict what the Turning Point will manifest. What we can predict is change and transition that brings us all beyond the point of no return. How the month shows up: YOU PERSONALLY Use the month to get present. Use the month to fully take in your experiences with gratitude and use the month to fully release what you are turning away from.
You may go through feelings of nostalgia, sadness and even some grief, much of it general and not really connected to anything. Nostalgia is in the air as we are turning towards a new view. See and experience everything with presence. Practice saying goodbye to what you know, and hello to the unknown view ahead. This is an incredible time where you can experience the turning point towards the positive in many areas you have put energy into.
It is a good month for manifesting especially something you have been putting your focus into for a long time. You may also feel compelled to finally let go of what is holding you back from that new view. Make friends with death and the finality of its lessons.
A good exercise to do daily would be to face a literal view that you are familiar with and then to turn 90 degrees to your right, trying on the experience that you will never see the old view again. Take in the beauty and wonder of the new view and see its possibilities as positive and supportive. Do this as many times during the day wherever you are to practice the experience of the turning point."
Wishing you an incredible journey through this month of change and beyond,
Ellen
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Riding the Waves in these Wacky Times
I am back to posting here, after a strange and challenging summer. What's it been like for you? Time--and life--are moving faster than ever, and we are being constantly challenged to stay centered as things change and fall apart all around us. As a client said recently "Everything I ever believed in has fallen away. It's hard to know what to believe anymore." She lost her business, her home and her relationship within 3 months.
Many of us have or are experiencing loss, although hopefully it isn't as intense for you as it was for this client. Support is vital, though it can feel like we have even less money to spend on that...which is why I will be offering lower cost group sessions and programs to provide that support in addition to private sessions.
I will also continue my focus on helping you clear blocks to bringing cash in, and to manifesting money, clients, an intimate relationship or the quality of relationships that you want
The next Joyful Manifesting Intensive begins on September 26th and it's 5 days in a row of repatterning work to clear your obstacles..the beliefs, memories and subconscious counter intentions that sabotage you, etc.
Clearing the "stuff" that blocks the Law of Attraction from working for you.
So, happy to be back!
Many blessings,
Ellen
Many of us have or are experiencing loss, although hopefully it isn't as intense for you as it was for this client. Support is vital, though it can feel like we have even less money to spend on that...which is why I will be offering lower cost group sessions and programs to provide that support in addition to private sessions.
I will also continue my focus on helping you clear blocks to bringing cash in, and to manifesting money, clients, an intimate relationship or the quality of relationships that you want
The next Joyful Manifesting Intensive begins on September 26th and it's 5 days in a row of repatterning work to clear your obstacles..the beliefs, memories and subconscious counter intentions that sabotage you, etc.
Clearing the "stuff" that blocks the Law of Attraction from working for you.
So, happy to be back!
Many blessings,
Ellen
Monday, September 19, 2011
Are You Taking Up Too Much Room?
Probably not—but in the name of being polite or “nice”, you may be acting like you do. Certain automatic habits, like constantly apologizing, shrink your presence and energy field unnecessarily. Women are especially trained to apologize almost constantly, but we are all subject to this sorry epidemic.
I noticed this in two incidents this weekend. First, standing around my kitchen at home, my guest kept apologizing for being in my way, making dirty dishes, etc. Finally I said, “why are you sorry? All you’re doing is being here..and you are welcome in my kitchen.. no need to apologize."
Even more blatantly, last night, at a friend’s house, another guest needed to use the sink which I happened to be leaning against. He said, “I’m sorry but I need to get in there.”
Again, I asked “why are you saying sorry? It’s okay to need something. All you needed to do was say excuse me."
Even the phrase "excuse me" is self effacing.
It’s this reflex of apologizing…for asking someone else to move, to do something for you, for “being in the way"..I think it trains us to put ourselves down or act like what we should be is invisible.
Does being polite mean apologizing for our existence?
We are trained to put others first, but do we have to cut ourselves out of the picture altogether with our “don’t mind me, I’m just trying to exist in as small a box as possible” apology habit?
What do you think?
I noticed this in two incidents this weekend. First, standing around my kitchen at home, my guest kept apologizing for being in my way, making dirty dishes, etc. Finally I said, “why are you sorry? All you’re doing is being here..and you are welcome in my kitchen.. no need to apologize."
Even more blatantly, last night, at a friend’s house, another guest needed to use the sink which I happened to be leaning against. He said, “I’m sorry but I need to get in there.”
Again, I asked “why are you saying sorry? It’s okay to need something. All you needed to do was say excuse me."
Even the phrase "excuse me" is self effacing.
It’s this reflex of apologizing…for asking someone else to move, to do something for you, for “being in the way"..I think it trains us to put ourselves down or act like what we should be is invisible.
Does being polite mean apologizing for our existence?
We are trained to put others first, but do we have to cut ourselves out of the picture altogether with our “don’t mind me, I’m just trying to exist in as small a box as possible” apology habit?
What do you think?
Monday, July 18, 2011
Manifest Your Mate - Session 3 - Clearing/Releasing/Redefining Our Relationship Legacy from our parents
Manifest Your Mate Session 3: Clearing Negative Beliefs/Examples from Our Parent’s Marriage
Intentions:
I discriminate between what is useful and positive from my parents’ example and what is de-energizing, outmoded and inappropriate. I chose that which is inspiring and life affirming.
I recognize that much of what my parents taught me is not appropriate for current day relationships and I open to a new paradigm for intimate relationship.
I am free to redefine and choose, in co-creation with my partner, the forms and patterns of relating that work for each of us, now.
Compensation Repatterning:
This Repatterning addresses compensation patterns that we developed, usually in childhood, to compensate or make up for the lack of love or positive attention that we experienced.
Compensation: Niceness
(non-coherent) Who I am is unacceptable
(coherent) People like and accept me when I am honest and genuinely myself with them
Compensation: Insecurity
(non-coherent) I have to hold onto my father’s attention/a man’s attention so he won’t leave me
(coherent) I feel secure even when there is silence in a conversation
Water Element Repatterning
This is one of the Relationship Repatternings and addresses imbalances in the water element. When our water element is out of balance we may be stuck, frozen, fearful and unable to access our own power and energy reserves.
What stops me from having the relationship I want is:
Believing I want too much/believing what I want doesn’t exist/ believing I can’t have what I want/ Negative expectations of relationships based on the past
I am afraid of being loved/commitment/not being worthy/disaster/metal
Non-coherent qualities of the water element blocking us:
I lack the energy to commit to what I want
I have low energy relationships based on control issues
Non-coherent earlier experience:
Age: 28 months/ involved parents/Something traumatic happens to one of my parents, or between them/big emotional shock in the family/I am not comforted or reassured
Feeling: Terrified
Unmet needs: Love bonding/Being heard/Self expression
Beliefs that resulted: I have to be good/I have to be quiet/I have to clamp down my feelings
Body position reflecting this: Hunched over, hands on belly, protecting belly
Feeling: Fear, dread
What is the new thing you can tell yourself about relationships?
I am open to new, fulfilling possibilities in relationship that far surpass my parents’ example or even my own past relationship history
Body position reflecting this: Open hearted, warrior stance
I live and relate from the power of my essence
Feelings: Optimistic/Encouraged
Acupuncture points done for you: Lg Intestine 11 (right side) while affirming “I joyfully release the past”
Relationship Modality for Water: Receiving Reassurance
From the Divine Mother: “You are perfect. I love you just as you are.”
From the Divine Father: “You are my beloved. I cherish and care for you always.”
Positive Actions:
This positive action is to be completed within the next week if possible. If you are overwhelmed or still working on previous positive actions, check in with yourself about doing this one now. What do you sense or feel intuitively, or in your gut about this one…I encourage you to follow that, and I can also test for you if you can’t get clear, as to whether these actions should be done now or later. I am testing that this particular set of positive actions may also be completed at the end of the 7 session series.
Step 1—this was previously provided, so if you’ve done it, move on to step 2. If not, go ahead now...
If you have photos of your parents, or if they are alive, just imagine them in your mind’s eye. What do you imagine were or are their beliefs about marriage and about the relationships between the sexes? What don’t you like, what upsets you, about how they related? What promises, vows or commitments did you make to yourself about relationships or marriage from being around your parent’s relationship?
Step 2: Ritual release: based on your explorations above, write down on small pieces of paper, what you want to release about your parent’s marriage. Then, when you are ready and in a ritual “space”, read these things out loud, and declare:
I now joyfully and completely release these beliefs, any pain or trauma these beliefs have caused, from my system, knowing they no longer serve me.
Continue with your ritual release by burning the pieces of paper safely, (Common sense: make sure anything you use to handle the fire won’t get too hot for you, and that you are not in a windy place or where the burning paper could fly off and start a fire, make sure there is ventilation, and that you’re away from flammables, smoke alarms, etc.). If this is not safe to do, or not feasible, you can tear the papers into small pieces and release them into the ocean or flush them away.
Things to Notice: As you complete the ritual, take a pause to notice. Breathe, relax your body and notice your sensations. Is there a sense of more relaxation, peace, safety, lightness and letting go? Take a pause to savor and enjoy, knowing you have made room for the new!
c)Optional additional positive action:
Is there anything positive that you have learned from your parents' example, or that your parents modeled, that you would like to keep and even build further on? What is their positive relationship legacy to you?
Session is complete.
Intentions:
I discriminate between what is useful and positive from my parents’ example and what is de-energizing, outmoded and inappropriate. I chose that which is inspiring and life affirming.
I recognize that much of what my parents taught me is not appropriate for current day relationships and I open to a new paradigm for intimate relationship.
I am free to redefine and choose, in co-creation with my partner, the forms and patterns of relating that work for each of us, now.
Compensation Repatterning:
This Repatterning addresses compensation patterns that we developed, usually in childhood, to compensate or make up for the lack of love or positive attention that we experienced.
Compensation: Niceness
(non-coherent) Who I am is unacceptable
(coherent) People like and accept me when I am honest and genuinely myself with them
Compensation: Insecurity
(non-coherent) I have to hold onto my father’s attention/a man’s attention so he won’t leave me
(coherent) I feel secure even when there is silence in a conversation
Water Element Repatterning
This is one of the Relationship Repatternings and addresses imbalances in the water element. When our water element is out of balance we may be stuck, frozen, fearful and unable to access our own power and energy reserves.
What stops me from having the relationship I want is:
Believing I want too much/believing what I want doesn’t exist/ believing I can’t have what I want/ Negative expectations of relationships based on the past
I am afraid of being loved/commitment/not being worthy/disaster/metal
Non-coherent qualities of the water element blocking us:
I lack the energy to commit to what I want
I have low energy relationships based on control issues
Non-coherent earlier experience:
Age: 28 months/ involved parents/Something traumatic happens to one of my parents, or between them/big emotional shock in the family/I am not comforted or reassured
Feeling: Terrified
Unmet needs: Love bonding/Being heard/Self expression
Beliefs that resulted: I have to be good/I have to be quiet/I have to clamp down my feelings
Body position reflecting this: Hunched over, hands on belly, protecting belly
Feeling: Fear, dread
What is the new thing you can tell yourself about relationships?
I am open to new, fulfilling possibilities in relationship that far surpass my parents’ example or even my own past relationship history
Body position reflecting this: Open hearted, warrior stance
I live and relate from the power of my essence
Feelings: Optimistic/Encouraged
Acupuncture points done for you: Lg Intestine 11 (right side) while affirming “I joyfully release the past”
Relationship Modality for Water: Receiving Reassurance
From the Divine Mother: “You are perfect. I love you just as you are.”
From the Divine Father: “You are my beloved. I cherish and care for you always.”
Positive Actions:
This positive action is to be completed within the next week if possible. If you are overwhelmed or still working on previous positive actions, check in with yourself about doing this one now. What do you sense or feel intuitively, or in your gut about this one…I encourage you to follow that, and I can also test for you if you can’t get clear, as to whether these actions should be done now or later. I am testing that this particular set of positive actions may also be completed at the end of the 7 session series.
Step 1—this was previously provided, so if you’ve done it, move on to step 2. If not, go ahead now...
If you have photos of your parents, or if they are alive, just imagine them in your mind’s eye. What do you imagine were or are their beliefs about marriage and about the relationships between the sexes? What don’t you like, what upsets you, about how they related? What promises, vows or commitments did you make to yourself about relationships or marriage from being around your parent’s relationship?
Step 2: Ritual release: based on your explorations above, write down on small pieces of paper, what you want to release about your parent’s marriage. Then, when you are ready and in a ritual “space”, read these things out loud, and declare:
I now joyfully and completely release these beliefs, any pain or trauma these beliefs have caused, from my system, knowing they no longer serve me.
Continue with your ritual release by burning the pieces of paper safely, (Common sense: make sure anything you use to handle the fire won’t get too hot for you, and that you are not in a windy place or where the burning paper could fly off and start a fire, make sure there is ventilation, and that you’re away from flammables, smoke alarms, etc.). If this is not safe to do, or not feasible, you can tear the papers into small pieces and release them into the ocean or flush them away.
Things to Notice: As you complete the ritual, take a pause to notice. Breathe, relax your body and notice your sensations. Is there a sense of more relaxation, peace, safety, lightness and letting go? Take a pause to savor and enjoy, knowing you have made room for the new!
c)Optional additional positive action:
Is there anything positive that you have learned from your parents' example, or that your parents modeled, that you would like to keep and even build further on? What is their positive relationship legacy to you?
Session is complete.
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