Completion Process for 2014 and entering 2015

Transitions are very important, and can be a time when we lose "chi" or energy.  Especially in this culture which is so future oriented, we just jump into the New, or the next project, activity, phase of life, year ahead without taking time to focus on the cycle, project, relationship or year just ended. In this "hamster on the treadwheel" we are always focused on what's next, and what we didn't complete or get done, from the past.  We want to leapfrog past the lessons, the disappointments, the seeming failures--right into goal setting.  Looking at and honoring the past, honoring the 'shadow'-the uncomfortable stuff as well as the 'light' gives us grounding and stability.

 To be fully realized and effective in the world (yang expression), requires the support of the 'yin field'--the pause for introspection, the slowing down and turning inside.  This process below, will help you do just that, and come to closure and completion with the year just past.  I suggest that you take some time to do the following process around New Year's and over the next few weeks. 

According to Human Design, the New Year doesn't really begin till January 21st anyway.  Relax...let go of all this artificial  pressure about "New Year Goals or Resolutions".  Your New Year can start anytime you want it to...doesn't have to be January 1st.  Take time now to do the following Closure process and the new year will come into focus soon.

In this Closure/New Beginnings process, we not only name our regrets, we also take time to look at what DID work, what went well, what we appreciate about ourselves or our lives, what skills we learned, even to acknowledge our accomplishments.    This is part of RBCS (Retrain Your Brain to Celebrate Success), a very important key to staying motivated that I use in Tapping into Wealth  coaching and all my work.

Closure/New Beginnings Process **

This process is done at the completion of anything--a relationship, a career, a phase of life, a project, in order to bring closure and integrate the learning from the experience.  

 By coming to closure, we become oriented.  What does it mean to be oriented? We all know what disoriented means--so oriented is the opposite.  It means we know where we are in time and space.  We aren't lost in the past or floating in the future.  When we are oriented we are fully present, grounded and connected to our hearts.  We can see the options in front of us, we perceive the situation more clearly and can identify the best way to solve a problem or to move forward. 

 

Using this closure/new beginnings process for each phase of your day, relationships and life, enables you to clear the slate, to go into a new phase or new beginning with more energy. This process also helps you to let go of regrets and make peace with the past. 

When you are doing this process for the ending of a phase of your life, you may want to repeat this process over several days or even weeks to help you come to closure.  It’s best to do this in writing if you are alone, or speaking the answers out loud to another person who is partnering with you (or just listening to you).

You may also choose to do a Resonance Repatterning session with me, which will include this closure process and much more.

How to do the closure process:**

1. Preparation: First close your eyes. Begin to breathe slowly and rhythmically through your nose.

 

2. Relax your body: On the exhale, breathe out and relax—starting with your eyes, mouth and jaw.  Let your awareness move down your body and consciously relax each part, first neck and shoulders…then arms..next, the  chest, belly and hips.  Relax your upper, middle and lower back.  Breathe deeply, letting go as you now relax your thighs, lower legs and feet.

As you do this, notice if you are holding any tension and let it go. 

3.Connect to your heart: Bring awareness to your heart.  Receive love on your in-breath, radiate your love out on the out-breath, to people you're close to, to everyone in your group and to the world.  When you feel ready, open your eyes. Take your time.

4. Appreciation: Name what you appreciate about what you have just completed. What have you learned or received that is important and valuable to you?  How have you grown?

5. Regrets:  Do you have any regrets about what happened or did not happen?  About yourself or the actions of others?  Instead of moving on right away, when we acknowledge a regret, it becomes a powerful learning for us.  What is the lesson of the regret? Sharing your regret(s) usually generates immediate forgiveness and love. 

By accessing and naming your regrets you are able to let go of the tension, stress or pain that your regrets create, and orient yourself to love once more. 

Solutions/Advice not necessary: You don’t have to come up with a solution when someone is sharing their regrets.  Just listening with love (or acknowledging yourself with love) as someone names their regret, opens the space for great healing. 

6. Release and let go: After sharing your regrets, take a deep breath and relax, making a “Ha….” Sound.  Now get up and move, shake the energy out,  stretch, dance  or move your body freely any way it wants. 

7.  Doesn't that feel better? Now you are ready to focus on your next phase and new beginnings!

**Instructions and concept adapted from Chloe Wordsworth's Resonance Repatterning materials.